Why do I feel like I’m Going Crazy in Perimenopause?

by Magnolia on July 1, 2013

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It is the most common thing I hear from women regarding perimenopause.

“I feel like I’m going crazy! What is wrong with me?”

And there are a variety of reasons why women might feel this way too.

Personally, I think the primary reason is the simple “craziness” of perimenopause in general.

The wacky mood swings, depression, rages, inability to sleep, laughing one minute, crying the next, and all at an intensity that is too hard to explain to anyone who hasn’t been through it.

Never mind trying to get your spouse to understand.

Physically, however, there are a few symptoms of perimenopause which probably scare women more than others, leading us to believe we’ve finally fallen off the turnip wagon.

Mood Swings

For me, mood swings were the “grand mal” symptom.  They were so intense, and I felt so completely out of control (and frankly, I was), that I was certain I was losing every last semblance of sanity I ever had.

For someone like me, never accused of being a wilting wall flower, and who has spent her entire life bulldozing through any obstacle that might have the misfortune of being in my way, this lack of control was emotionally and psychologically eviscerating.

I’m also certain that my emotional and mental duress over my inability to control or stop what was happening to me, made the mood swings even more debilitating.

What Causes Mood Swings?

In the most basic terms, it is the very turbulent shift (rising and falling) in estrogen and progesterone levels that causes mood swings – particularly the raging part.  Much like the years of PMS (remember those?), when estrogen levels rise and progesterone levels fall, it affects your mood profoundly.

Estrogen is a wonderful hormone, and when in balance does wonderful things for women.  But, when estrogen levels are too high, as they often are for women going through perimenopause, raging mood swings (among many other symptoms) are often the result.

Adrenal Fatigue & Thyroid Dysfunction

Let me tell you something: I had no earthly idea that women going through perimenopause could also suffer from adrenal fatigue and thyroid dysfunction.  But we can.  In fact, these two secondary issues are often the culprit in causing and intensifying many of the symptoms of perimenopause.

Such as: crashing fatigue, heart palpitations, panic attacks, vertigo and dizziness, bolting awake from a sound sleep hyperventilating, and a racing heart.

You know, maybe crashing fatigue is not a symptom which most women would associate with “feeling like I’m going crazy.” But heart palpitations?  Panic attacks? Vertigo and dizziness?  Bolting awake in the middle of the night with your heart racing and hyperventilating?

I should say so.

What Causes Adrenal Fatigue & Thyroid Dysfunction?

Again, in most basic terms, adrenal fatigue occurs when the adrenal glands are called upon too much in order to help us cope with daily stress and demands (in other words, too much on our plate and we’re stressed out); and when our thyroid hormones (TSH, T4, & T3) become out of balance, thyroid dysfunction (either hypo or hyperthyroidism) is the result.

Both adrenal fatigue and thyroid dysfunction can contribute to and exacerbate perimenopause symptoms.  Vertigo and dizziness, for example, are associated with hypothyroidism, and heart palpitations and panic attacks are associated with both adrenal fatigue and thyroid dysfunction as well.

So let me say it again, ladies, you are not going crazy in perimenopause.  It only feels that way, and you can thank some of these symptoms for it too.  The important thing is to understand that “this too shall pass.”

It really will.  And while I can’t promise you that this aging thing and menopause is “all that.”  It’s certainly a lot better than perimenopause.  So, while you may be suffering mightily with those perimenopause symptoms right now. There is a light at the end of the tunnel.

It’s called menopause.

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Grandma Bonnie July 3, 2013 at 10:16 pm

Although some spouses are more sensitive to menopausal issues I don’t think any spouse can understand fully what we are going through. It sure is nice to have some understanding company through the rough spots though.


racheal January 27, 2015 at 2:15 pm

Yes unfortunately I am a victim of these menopause issues, after years of not understanding or being well informed. I had a partial hysterectomy back in 1999, and although I never noticed any real big change up until now, the hard part is learning to accept the journey and learn to love yourself in a whole new way of perspective, so remember your not alone and it will get better in time and optimistically speaking crying is a way to heal so let it flow…. Thanks for reading and hang in there ladies, <3
Racheal~ from Toledo


Karen D. Austin July 4, 2013 at 8:58 am

When I started perimenopause the fall of 2011, my younger siblings told me to see a shrink. After a couple of months, my moods evened out again. Give them a few years, and they’ll “get it.”


Yvette L. Gentry July 10, 2013 at 11:31 am

It is often difficult to pinpoint the exact causes of panic disorder, because so many factors are involved (emotional and physical problems, traumatic events, and so forth). But because women are twice as likely to suffer from panic disorder as men, most commonly during PMS, pregnancy, and menopause, doctors have come to conclude that hormones are typically the underlying cause. During menopause, the vital female sex hormones estrogen and progesterone rapidly decline, which has a major affect on women’s mood as well as their bodies. Low estrogen can cause panic disorder during menopause for two reasons: declining level of estrogen and declining levels of progesterone.


Magnolia July 14, 2013 at 8:59 am

Hello Yvettte,

Thank you for your comment. I haven’t run into any doctors who believe that panic attacks or panic disorder are hormonally induced. If what you say is true, I’m encouraged. My experience has been that women are treated as if they have psychiatric disorders in stead.



kathy March 16, 2014 at 2:46 pm

My anxiety has been heightened since perimenopause. The doctors are ill-informed about this issue, so their huge egos dismiss it. I have not had anxiety issues for many years prior to peri, despite my bipolar diagnosis. Yes, it sucks, but it is hormonal unless you are going through other problems.


Fruitloopz July 13, 2013 at 9:07 pm

I actually have an appt with a psychiatrist on Monday..can’t stand the panic attacks and anxiety! How bad is it to resort to medication? I feel like I’m “giving in” but can’t imagine living like this anymore.


Magnolia July 14, 2013 at 8:49 am

Hi Fruitloopz,

I hated typing that name out to answer you. But, I didn’t see anything else that indicated a real name. But, to answer your question, no, I do not believe it is “bad” to resort to medication if that is what you feel like you need to do.

I personally wish there were more clear cut and straight answers to the issues of hormone imbalance for women so we wouldn’t be so confused and frustrated by all of this. But, unfortunately, there are not. It’s a war zone out there trying to figure out who’s right and who’s wrong and what the best course of action is for these stupid symptoms.

I can tell you this, however, you are not losing your mind or actually going crazy. It just feels that way. The panic attacks and anxiety could be attributed to a lot of things. Adrenal fatigue and thyroid dysfunction can both cause those symptoms. Have you had any blood work done? Have you seen anyone for your symptoms at all?

Perhaps after your visit to your mental health provider, you can check in with your primary care physician or perhaps even an endocrinologist to see about having your blood work done?



Jodi Schneider-Ceroll August 20, 2014 at 5:04 pm

the pre menopause blog.com hell no girl get on whatever you need too!!I have a Dr appointment tomorrow because I am a raging bitch and I don’t know what is going on with me I havenot been myself not been myself for the last 3 months and my son is getting married and I told his wife my soon to be daughter in law at her bridal shower last Saturday that she was not good enough for him and I don’t even remember why I did it or what the hell I was thinking I only had 2 drinks!!so I know it wasn’t that or maybe it was that mixed with it I don’t know but I can always handle my liquor I’m usually a good time but lately I have been trying to exclude everybody in my life and push them away and I don’t know why I do it it’s like I’m trying to punish myself and I can’t help it I have such a rage issue that I can not control and my husband is on the verge of divorcing meI have always been an upbeat s fun person to be around and this is changed in the last 3 months I feel that if I don’t get help I am going to lose everybody I am already on invited to the wedding uninvited to the wedding!!which hurts like hell but I don’t blame them I feel depressed but I don’t want to try to make myself better dad I am just going to disappoint people and that people would be better off without me I don’t know why I feel this way I think it’s pre menopause I am 42 and I had my tubes tied 11 ye my periods have been irregular for the last 3 months irregular for the last 3 months as far as getting down to nothing please help I feel like I’m going crazy I don’t know what to do??


nslady December 7, 2014 at 8:24 pm

don’t be too hard on yourself. reading your post is like I’m reading about myself. I’m 52 and irregular periods. a terrible, terrible bitch. I do exactly the same as you. use any excuse i can to raise hell and push everyone away. I see how i am but can’t change it when it hits. I use progesterone by the gob! helps sometimes. maybe half the time. i’m not giving in to anti-depressants though. just don’t be too hard on yourself. you’re not alone.


nslady December 7, 2014 at 8:26 pm

also, i try to stay away from alcohol of any kind now. cause it makes things 20 times worse when the S*** hits the fan.


Lynee July 18, 2013 at 5:48 pm

I am soooo happy to have found your blog. I feel like hormones are making life unbearable right now!!! I am 47 and have been experiencing many of the symptoms of peri for about the last three years.. Oddly enough , I’ve never had a hot flash, but constantly feel “off” in some way.’ The worst symptoms for me right now are vertigo/dizzy feeling and anxiety. I just want the carousel to stop so that I can get off!! Lol My Dr. Just prescribed yam based progesterone (50mg to start) and Xanax if needed. I’ve only been on it for 10 days and it started my period early , so no relief yet!!!!! I want to feel a little relief, as all of this is impacting my daily life. At times, I don’t want to leave the house because I fear passing out or getting sick in public. I try to remember to breath and relax, but nothing works!!!


theresa August 15, 2014 at 11:10 am

OMG! I am right there with you! I too feel that dizzy feeling at times and it is certain to bring on an anxiety attack! If so many of us feel this way, why do many physicians dismiss this? I began having anxiety attacks just as perimenopause kicked in. No one connected the two. I have told my physician over and over that something was wrong hormonally. He seems to be preoccupied with wether or not i am experiencing any vaginal dryness…ugh. He did prescribe mini-vell and progestin which is making me crazier. I finally decided to change physicians. crossing my fingers, going this week. I have been told by several that she is very sympathetic to all of us going though this crazy time. Hang in there. If i learn anything new that helps me, i will post.


what's going on!!?? :( July 23, 2013 at 6:06 pm


I am a 41 yr old, healthy woman, who’s always had
regular periods & also have my tubes tied for 16 yrs.
It’s been 7 weeks since my last period, I’ve gone through 4
negative pregnancy tests. I’ve felt “off”, verrrry crampy &
nausea. I came across your blog & it kind of makes sense. Doc appt
made, 6 weeks from now. Ugh! I’m still thinking in the back of my mind,
“could I be pregnant still?”


Magnolia July 25, 2013 at 7:32 am

Hi Wendy,

When I first started going through perimenopause, I was convinced I was pregnant month after month as I kept missing periods. But, alas, I wasn’t. It was just the changing of my hormones. However, you can’t rule it out. So, definitely follow up with your doctor to make sure. I had my third child at 43. So, it’s definitely not out of the question at 41!



Wendy July 28, 2014 at 4:59 pm

Hi Magnolia,

Well I came across your blog one year later & feeling as if I’m “going crazy” this time & sooo very emotional. Crying one minute & laughing the next…seriously feel like I’m loosing it…. Last year, when I first wrote, I thought I might be pregnant…but after seeking advice and testing from my doctor, he did inform me, that I was in fact, going through perimenopause. I’ve been doing research & trying to keep things in perspective…God love my new husband of 1 month, oh my gosh! I don’t even understand, how could he possibly!?


Dorothea Bentley August 6, 2013 at 9:32 pm

People who have panic disorder suffer from unexpected and repeated episodes of intense fear known as panic attacks. Symptoms include heart palpitations, shortness of breath, chest pain, tingling, dizziness, or abdominal pain. They may feel a sense of impending doom as the panic attack intensifies. Taking these facts into account, it’s easy to see why hyperthyroidism is confused with panic disorder. The two conditions have similar symptoms, and both emerge in young adulthood. But if you have a family or personal history of thyroid disease, you might want to ask for a thyroid test before getting officially diagnosed with panic disorder. Hyperthyroidism can also exacerbate panic disorder.


tina skellett August 7, 2013 at 8:45 pm

I am 57. Still getting periods every 28-30 days. Last few days am getting palpitations, low mood, anxiety, negative thoughts, wake at night with heaviness in my chest and can’t breath deeply sort of. Tend to be shallow breathing. I cry at anything too. It is hard trying to carry on the 2 jobs i do. I am sensitive to hurtful things my kids say too. Should i see about my heart and breathing? Do you think is perimenopause? Please give me some advice?


BEEN THERE July 16, 2014 at 6:15 pm

I was 57 once. Fortunately I was rushed into Menopause by having a hysterectomy. I say “fortunately,” because my Dr. immediately started me on the hormones that I would lack and that would “make me crazy.” I got over it just fine, but now I am experiencing it again – full throttle. It’s my 55 year old daughter who has taken me with her on the roller coaster ride and I want off. I love her dearly but I really don’t know how to handle this. Should I suggest she talk to a Dr. or a “shrink,” I think I do not want to go there. All I can say to you, Tina, is I hope you have gotten help from someone, somewhere. If not and it is still going on, please, please find someone or you risk ruining your life, your children’s and if you are married, that too. I think I am going to have to divorce my daughter. She acts like she hates me and I cannot stand the pain any longer. Do something, before it is too later.


Reg lee August 8, 2013 at 9:52 pm

I’m 45 yrs old going through very bad mood swings one minute I’m mad the next crying and so on, my husband does understand, he doesn’t help my mood swings I really need surport from him most of all peri isn’t a nice thing to go through. I think horrible thoughts in my head. He tells me Im crazy and need help and he wants me to be happy he can’t deal with my moods and live like this anymore. How can I start making him its my hormones and I am happy just going though this peri menopause


Jan December 29, 2013 at 4:17 pm

I am 41 and feel like I am goin insane, I hav horrible thoughts aswell in my head, I hav seen 2 docs and they both say I am stressed, they hav given me anti-depressants which I am scared to take because he said I wud feel worse at first when I start them, I can’t imagine feeling any worse! I cry all the time, feel anxious and nervous, I hav been off work for 6 weeks now and really need to go back, the doc says I am not perimenopausal because I hav had one blood test for my hormones and it’s Normal, I had a period out of the blue last week and I never hav periods because I hav the marina coil fitted, I just do not no wot to take or do or see to help myself feel normal again!


Magnolia December 30, 2013 at 9:22 pm


I can assure you that you WILL feel normal again. It takes time and it is a difficult path through perimenopause for so many women. But, you’re not crazy, you’re not GOING crazy, and it won’t last forever. I took antidepressants during my years of perimenopause because I was desperate to feel better. The truth is, they didn’t help me. I wouldn’t take hormones because I was afraid too. Knowing what I know now, I wish that I would have gone through what I needed to go through to get the dosage right for bioidentical hormones.

And can I said, it is not unusual for women to be told they are not in perimenopause and that their bloodwork is “normal” I hope you will not take no for an answer and find a physician who is willing to at least *try* and help you. You are not too young either. I was 41 when I started perimenopause.



tobi January 9, 2014 at 10:01 pm

I am experiencing many of the same things you all are and after thousands of blood, spit test and medication including homeopathic tincture trials I find that Licorice plus has the best mix of both worlds. It has affected both adrenal fatigue and hormone issues for me. Also after 32 years of smoking I have gone to the vapor electric smoke devise and have not smoked for 6 weeks. good luck


kerry January 11, 2014 at 3:40 am

I’m on patches at the moment but they don’t last that long before wearing off once this happens I’m in real trouble I think I’m going over the edge and not coming back my head is that numb and in term oil how long do I have to put up with this for I can’t take it much longer


Magnolia January 11, 2014 at 9:31 am


The thing about perimenopause is that it makes you “feel” like you’re losing control, but of course, you are not. It does pass eventually.



Christine January 27, 2014 at 10:47 pm

Hi, I think I am experiencing extreme perimenopause. I am 46 and have been dealing with severe menstrual bleeding for the past 5 years. But the past 9 months have been horrible for me. I am basically bedridden with extreme fatigue and awful symptoms. I can’t think straight, I have terrible bloating and bowel problems, severe weakness. I am hot all the time. I don’t seem to get hot flashes, but am just hot throughout the day. I actually sleep with a thin blanket and a floor fan…and it’s 10 degrees out!! I have been to multiple doctors and have had tons of tests and everything comes back normal. I have asked for my hormones to be checked and they just won’t do it. My GP said if I was really going through the “change” then I would be getting hot flashes. After that statement I knew he was not versed in perimenopause because not everyone gets hot flashes. Is it really possible to feel this bad? I feel sick everyday…no breaks at all. There are days that I feel like I’m literally dying. It helps to know that others feel this too…although I don’t wish this on anyone. Why can’t I just be one of those women who breeze through it!


Yeye Vivas February 2, 2014 at 12:32 am

So reassuring to know I am not the only know who feels all the things you described in the blog. Hallelujah!!! Have been experiencing a lot of stress from work the last quarter of 2013. Good thing, I was really due for a complete hormone test last weekof January. The result showed that I have hypothyroid thus the reason I am experiencing all the symptoms you wrote about. At least I know that I am not going crazy. I am just going thru perimens and thyroid dysfunction. I just have to remind myself : a day at a time. It is a blessing to finally find a doctor here in the Philippines who is very knowledgeable about the Bio Identical Hormone Replacement. In the past, doctors just sadly dismissed my worst perimens symptoms as “all in my head.” Looking forward to the light at the end of the tunnel.


Lorenza Hanvy October 27, 2014 at 5:31 pm

I am curious how the bio identical hormones work for you, I was put on natural estrogen, and progestrone, I do feel somewhat better, but not the way I want to feel. I also have hypotyhroid, and was put on natural thyroid hormone. Didnt realize us ladies had so much to look for later in life.


Kathy February 8, 2014 at 9:44 am

Since my last period last month I have been living in hell! I haven’t been myself since. I went in and saw my Gyn and he said you need a hysterectomy because of the heavy periods. Went in and saw my primary care and said I feel like I’m going crazy, am I going through menopause. She said I was stressed out and she gave me an rx for an anti depressant and some ativan for anxiety. The anti depressant sent me to a dark place so did not continue and the ativan didn’t help much either. So I called my Drs. nurse and said, hey I still don’t feel right. She said take your ativan. I asked for additional blood work to make sure nothing was missed but never heard back from the drs office. {The sad thing is I work at this drs office} Woke up one morning and felt totally out of it. I was convinced I was crazy! Drove myself in the snow to the nearest ER and was in the midst of a panic attack. They took me back and I was lucky enough to have a wonderful male nurse who talked to me and assured me I am not going crazy. Unfortunately he said there isn’t a test that proves you are in menopause and the ER is really for life threatening issues. They gave me something for anxiety and sent me home, Next morning same thing! I drove myself to the ER. This time they had me speak to a social worker to figure out what I should do. I was put on a different anti depressant and it seems to be helping a bit. Haven’t had a trip to the ER at least. Also made it to work, Tried to make an appointment to see my Dr and her office said she was to full. So I have decided to find another Dr. My symptoms are real and something is malfunctioning just like if I were a diabetic or have high blood pressure. To bad there isn’t a dr out there who specializes in menopause issues. BTW hot flashes are not like you see on tv where women are fanning themselves. I felt like my body was on fire!


theresa August 15, 2014 at 11:28 pm

You aren’t crazy! i am right there with you. My doctor treated me the same. i too have been to the ER. I am going to a new Dr. this week who uses the biodentical hormones. i have been on a patch and progestin prescribed by my current doctor and truly feel like i am losing it by the end of the month! If i find something that works, i will post.


Angela February 16, 2014 at 11:14 am

What a comfort to read all these posts. I am so sorry that we are all dealing with these crazy issues, but I too have been having the following symptoms for a long time, crying at the drop of a hat, irritable, terrible gerd and nausea, heart papa, insomnia, burning sensation on the inside of my body, extreme dizziness, ringing in ears, balance problems, fatigue, vaginal dryness, brittle hair, and just an overall ill feeling. I have missed so much work because of all this and I am 42. I was tested a couple years ago and was told my hormone levels were normal as we’ll. I can get any advice from my mom about what age she started peri, because she had a complete hystereomy at age 32. I do a lot of praying and meditating on scriptures. And this helps me a lot. I wish everyone better days ahead and I too know that this too shall pass……


jennifer February 18, 2014 at 8:47 am

Hello everyone, like you I am and have been feeling very I’ll with all my symptoms of peri. Some seem to escalate from one day to the next. Right now my main symptoms are gerd like. Some days are bad and some days are jus debilitating. The burning and pain, nausea, dizziness, quivering insides, nervousness, fullness in my head and ears, headaches, body and joint pain, tention congestion, forgetfulness, tearfullness, extremely tired my list goes on and on it seems. I have had anxiety most of my achy life and even though it’s bad I think I would rather deal with those over what I’m going through now. This stuff is crazy!! I cannot take HRT because I had a bloodclot in my past due to an injury. So I have been trying to wing it. Trying supplements which I haven’t found any that have worked for me. I heard primrose tablets might help. I am so tired and broke from buying all the vitamins and teas and supplements that I’m just getting tired of trying. What’s a women to do?? That is the question and like so many I am finding no answers. I have read everything I can but to no avail. I guess if if don’t do me in I’ll make it to the otherside eventually. Wishing everyone a safe and peaceful journey through this “change” Big Warm Hugs, Jen


Gabrielle Womack April 8, 2014 at 5:32 pm

You might consider getting a thyroid panel done. Sounds like you are going through perimenapause and thyroid issues. I had all the symptoms you have and found out I had hypothyroid and perimenapause. The symptoms mimic each other making it more intense. Good luck.


kathy March 16, 2014 at 2:39 pm

I am bipolar, going through perimenopause and just had surgery to remove cancer, now cancer free. My anxiety is so bad. I’ m guessing it is normal!


Magnolia March 17, 2014 at 9:43 am

High estrogen and low progesterone have been associated with anxiety during perimenopause, Kathy.



Patricia April 4, 2014 at 11:11 am

Hi Magnolia,
I am so so happy I was able to read your blogs and all the above posts.
I’m going through this hell right now, I’m 45, lost my husband 4 years ago and raising 3 young kids with not much support, also working full time.
I clearly entered perimenopause shortly after having my tubes tied,but it became worse 2 years ago. I have mood swings and bouts of depresion and helplessness. Losing control and snapping at the children with huge feelings of guilt afterwards.. I am thankful to hear now that it’s going to be okay eventually.
My question is ” when?” For how long does this craziness last?
I’m on my third month of natural progesterone cream and also started 5 HTP.
Not much improvement yet but it’s early days.
thanks for helping one like me with your information and share of experience ! xx


Penae April 13, 2014 at 8:08 pm

I have been having these symptoms for 3 years. I,am 47 years old. I have 2 grown daughters and a husband I have been married to for 28 years. They do not understand at all. I,am so tired of feeling this way. My family call me crazy all the time. I feel so helpless. I lost my brother this past August of cancer so my depression and anxiety have became even worse. And the hot flashes are terrible. I keep thinking its going to get betterbut 3 years is a longtime.


Jamie April 23, 2014 at 7:31 pm

Hello all – I am 50 yrs old and had my last period in December. My main problem right now is extreme fatigue – doesn’t matter how much I sleep I am always tired. I did suffer through a health anxiety because I was certain I was dying. I have had pain under my right ribcage for 4 years. I have had a multitude of tests – all negative and my GP has washed his hands of me. I am now seeing a naturopath and a chiropractor hoping they can help. Any solutions for the fatigue?


debbie January 29, 2015 at 2:23 pm

You might want to try acupuncture. It is helpful with all sorts of conditions, including


Emily April 25, 2014 at 10:44 pm

Im Emily and I’m only 12 in 6th grade i lost my text book and i getting worked up crying and i can’t control it i just get worried over the future and i don’t know what will happen i look down at the bad things in life not the good things i need help someone please help me i don’t want my parents to feel ashamed to have me as a daughter i hurts inside and its spreading


Ellen May 9, 2014 at 12:28 am

Hi Emily,
How did you end up on this site? I’m really proud of you for reaching out for help, that’s a really healthy thing to do. You, my dear, are on the other side of the hormonal change that us older women are also going through. Twelve is a hard age to be because, like us, it is a time of big changes. But big changes have big opportunities connected to them. I don’t know if you believe in God, but He’s there for you. He is your loving Father. You need to find someone you can trust to talk to. Is there a teacher you like? Lots of schools have counselors and many larger churches have free or low cost licensed therapists as well. There are call-in hotlines for kids as well, I found some googling “call in counseling.” Google low-cost counseling to find something face-to-face in your area as well. I will pray for you tonight. You are a very resourceful young woman to ask for help and I applaud your strength and humility. Go connect with someone personally now. Troubles lessen when they are shared.


Belinda Benn June 1, 2014 at 2:00 am

Hi Emily and Ellen,
I just wanted to say you’re awesome Emily for posting here and I hope Ellen’s advice helps. It’s good advice. I remember when I was twelve – it wasn’t easy but talking to an adult I liked and trusted really helped.
Big Hug, Bel xoxo


Jenni April 29, 2014 at 8:52 pm

Hi from Brisbane Australia
I have been dealing with menopause since 2010. Nothing worked until I did my own research and found BHRT. It is bio identical hormone replacement. I too have been prescribed anti depressents in the past, but I am a menopausal woman in the 21st century, so why does the medical community think it is ok to mostly prescribe steroids and anti depressents when the root of our ills, physically, mentally and emotionally are our hormones? I didn’t go on those anti depressents and today I am on BHRT, and natural adrenal tablets to help me get off the synthetic steroids I was placed on in 2011 due to inflammation. Ladies, don’t let the main stream medical community treat you like “morons”. You all know who you were before menopause. Watch out for ills later down the track as they will stem back to menopause but will be waved away by the medical community as nothing to do with it. Also BHRT has been given a bad wrap, but lets not forget that HRT is a billion dollar business. They say BHRT is not scientifically proven, but the dangers of HRT HAVE been proven but they are still prepared to throw that at us?! So in saying we will get through is a bit curious to me as we lose most of our estrogen and all of our progesterone which has such a devastating effect on the menopausal woman physically, mentally and emotionally. The ripple efrect on our loved ones can be devastating as well.
We are menopaual women in the 21st century. Stand up for you. You know you.


corrinne May 15, 2014 at 4:03 am

I feel so out of control, severe depression, uncontrollable emotions, everything surfacing from the past, pains everywhere, heart feels all over the place. Thorn like pains everywhere, nerves running up and down spine. Convinced im dying all the time, does any one else have horrific dreams, cant cope with nothing. I feel for you all at this time i hope it passes soon because im exhausted. Because of history of severe depression never been as bad as this. Why as women do we always have to be ignored, all these drug companies spend billions on keeping us sick. The whole system sucks. We will continue to suffer and our children untill somthing happens to change things but it takes lots of people.


Heather Jones May 16, 2014 at 5:05 pm

Hi! This is first website blog that posts sound just like me. I am 47 years young have had hysterectomy am hypothryroid. Past 9 months have had ever symptom mentioned anxiety breast pain mood swings family making sport of me crying. finally went to gynecologist got bloodwork back and post card saying all labs normal ranges. FSH and thyroid I was mainly concerned about. Have tried progesterone creams, estrogen max. do not want to depend on antidepressants, was feeling and coping well till this all hit. I know The Lord and know he’ll see this through too but have mercy it’s been a wild ride. Still work take care of family every day all you can do is day by day is point I am at, thanks you for setting this up it does make me feel less alone. Hubbie does not get it.


Magnolia May 23, 2014 at 8:31 am

Yes, unfortunately, Heather, most men *don’t get it. Hang in there. You’ll get through it.



Dora Hernandez May 20, 2014 at 7:10 pm

My 51 years old and for about 2 months I’ve been feeling strange, not myself. I cry a lot, I’m happy one minute and depressed so badly the next, I don’t come out of my room. Not eating right, not sleeping, losing weight. I’ve thought about suicide, of course I won’t really hurt myself, I love my children way too much to leave them. And recently I felt I was going so crazy, I kept hearing voices in my head that were making me have negative thoughts. My boyfriend of 10 months couldn’t figure me out, I became so jealous I ended up driving him nuts! He finally couldn’t handle it and said goodbye. It wasn’t until I started reading up on pri that got me thinking. I’m not crazy, I’m going through a life change. (I’m glad I’m not the only one experiencing this ridiculousness!)


Magnolia May 23, 2014 at 8:20 am

No, Dora, you’re not alone or going crazy. Hormone imbalance can really do a number on us, that is for sure. I’m sorry your boyfriend bailed on you at a time when you could have used the support.

It happens all too often, unfortunately.



Jewels May 28, 2014 at 3:08 pm

Thank you so much ladies!
I have been bawling as I read each one of your stories. I am experiencing ALL the things you are talking about. It is good to know I am not alone, but I am still very scared by all of this. I do take meds for hypothyroidism, and I know I am going through PMP for sure! I am 47, and fear I have a few years a head of me to deal with it all.
Great to have the support from women like you!


Pam June 11, 2014 at 4:30 pm

Hi. I have finally made it past the 12 month mark without a period, so I guess its not perimenopause any more. I had a hypoactive thyroid long before the perimenopause started so when I first started having symptoms they were violent; the hot flashes, night sweats, and mood swings. Come to find out that when my hormones went completely haywire, it affected my TSH greatly and my medication had to be adjusted several times to find a happy medium. Now I have very few symptoms other than weight gain. I’m tired all the time because I don’t sleep well, because now the only problem I seem to be having is songs playing over and over in my head. I can’t shut it off. When I lie down to sleep, a song is looping in my head, and its still there when I wake up; its there all day; when I try to read, or try to concentrate at work, always a song. It’s not always the same song, usually something I heard recently, but it just plays in my head over, and over, and over. Right now as I am typing Hall & Oates is Making My Dreams Come True over and over again in my head. I can’t sleep, I can’t think, and its starting to affect my job. Is it just the menopause or am I really going crazy? Any thoughts?


Magnolia June 12, 2014 at 1:11 pm

No, Pam, you’re not crazy. That’s my first thought. :)

Have you thought of engaging in some sort of cardio exercise? I have found that regular cardio helps relax me, raise my levels of serotonin, and promotes an overall feeling of calm and well being. It helps soothe and calm the mind. You are probably just stressed and have a strange neurological loop running through your head.

I wouldn’t be too concerned about it, but I would definitely try some exercise to see if that helps. Oxygen to the brain and good circulation does wonderful things.



Pam June 12, 2014 at 4:48 pm

Magnolia, thank you. I do yoga at home every night and morning. I have a bad back so I have to stretch often. I do some walking on my treadmill and I walk to and from work. You are right, the more active I am the better I feel. Sometimes, however, nothing seems to work. Today I have Linda Ronstadt Traveling To The Beat Of A Different Drum in my head. Maybe I should just stay away from music with lyrics. :) I do yoga to Yanni. I will try piping Yanni into my headset at my desk and see if I can drown Linda out, and amp up the exercise.
Thanks again for your reply.


Robin June 15, 2014 at 10:16 pm

Hi, first I want to say I would not wish this feeling upon anyone. I too have all the symptoms that you all are describing excessive worry, axiety, dizzy, when I wake up in the morning I have been so nervous that I feel like I am loosing it. I have lost 10pds in the last week cannot eat. My husband can not go anywhere because I panic. I have had these feelings for about 4 yrs. off and on, but recently it has been every day. I really thought I was not going to make it. I t scared the crap out of me. I have been taking maca for the last 4 days it has made symptoms not so bad. Maca is a natural hormone balancer it is a root from the radish family so it is actually a food. I could not find any side effects. I have taken it before for hot flashes and it always took them away. I used to take 1tsp then, this time I am taking 1tsp when I first wake up and 1tsp at night when I go to bed. It has helped a ton. I take an organic kind it cost about 30.00 on line or in health food store. Before I started taking it the adrenilin rush I felt everytime I had a thought was horrible. This week I will meet with a homeopathic Dr. she does a complete blood work up and specifically makes what ever hormones or vitimans, minerals that you are lacking and gives you specific for what is low. This is what I have been told. I went in filled out paper work 2days ago and was crying saying I just pray I can be fixed. Im truly Praying for a great outcome. I will let you know will post back. Do not let anyone tell this is not hormones this is exactly what it is. I am not scared to talk about so I have asked many women what they felt and it is the same as this we are feeling. Remember God is good when I would get so scared I would say help me Jesus over and over again till things subsided. He will never leave us he promises. He will use this oppurtinity to help others even though it is hard for us at this time. hang in there we will ALL get through this as we all learn we will post.


Kate Bee June 21, 2014 at 12:15 am

Gosh, what a lot of information and experiences here on this great blog site! Thank you!
I am about 3 months into peri-menopause and the initial onset was a very dramatic, unpleasant and frightening experience. My long-term Naturopath now has me on tonics, powders and tablets morning and night to assist my body manage all these symptoms. I am shocked how no-one out in the general world talks about Menopause. Its like a taboo subject. I now understand from my own emotional roller-coaster ride how women were deemed ‘mad’ and locked away in Sanatoriums at one stage!
After reading all the posts and not heard anyone speaking of this symptom, I wanted to ask if anyone is experiencing weird itching ie/ at the base of my skull at my hair-line gets incredibly itchy several times per day and pubic hair region also gets incredibly itchy as well. Wondering if anyone else is experiencing this and how they are managing it?
Many thanks for this support available. Its a gem to have come across this site! Thank you!


Jennifer June 26, 2014 at 11:21 am

Hi. I am new to this. I am 43 and think I am in pmp. Here are my symptoms. Can you tell if I am in PMP?
– trouble staying asleep
– aches and pain wakes me up in the morning even though I use a sleep number bed
– mood swings (with no reason for the bad ones)
– peeing alot
– leaking when sneezing our coughing
– can’t lose weight even though I bike 4 miles 5 times a week and eat healthy
– and my BIG one is forgetfullness.

Appreciate any input.


Magnolia June 26, 2014 at 7:57 pm


With the exception of trouble sleeping (and it might be associated with estrogen as well), but all of your symptoms are due to fluctuating estrogen levels. Aches and pains….lowe estrogen. Mood swings……high estrogen. Peeing a lot…..low estrogen, and perhaps blood sugar fluctuations. Incontinence…..low estrogen. Can’t lose weight……estrogen dominance. Forgetfulness…..low estrogen.

So, it sounds to me like you’re estrogen is going up and down and that is why you’re having all these symptoms. Balancing estrogen with bioidentical progesterone will help you sleep and will address many of these issues.



Rox August 26, 2014 at 2:42 am

Wow, so glad I found this site… I’ve been going crazy for a few years now and can relate to all the symptoms mentioned. Why can’t there be an easy solution??? This really sucks and I’m so over it. So sick of feeling crappy all the time. This support is so well appreciated.


debbie January 29, 2015 at 2:27 pm

you could very well be in peri. mine started about age 45 with night sweats. you might want to go to your doctor and have labs done, checking your estrogen/progesterone, thyroid function and Vitamin D/B12. there are a lot of things you can take for relief of your symptoms. menopause is a roller coaster, but it is a bit more manageable if you
are aware of your symptoms and stay on top of things. hope this helps.


Jennifer June 26, 2014 at 11:22 am

oh yes, I still get my period regularly but it’s nasty and pms is horrible for 1-2 weeks before I get it.


Magnolia June 26, 2014 at 7:57 pm

Again…..estrogen issues.



kim July 3, 2014 at 12:08 am

Hi, Im 51 have had hot flashes and night sweats since I was 45, mood swings as well, didnt have a period for ten months just for it to come back for one month and disappear again so now I have to count down to the one year with no period thing again, I almost made it to menopause how disappointing, my problem now is that in the last month I am having new symptoms, I cant quite call it dizzy or vertigo, its so hard to explain its like Im looking out through someone else eyes, Im detached, off balance, wierd head feeling, foggy nervous, internal shaking, rage, just plain dont feel like me, this is new to me, is this symptoms of perimenopause too??? I just wish it would hurry up and get over with, I watch my grandkids while my son works, little kids and peri DONT MIX.


kim July 3, 2014 at 12:11 am

Forgot to mention that I was widowed at 41 and lost my insurance when I lost my husband, I cant afford ins so have not seen a doctor, I had insurance my whole life so I am having to ride it out without any help.


debbie January 29, 2015 at 2:30 pm

Kim-you might want to try to get medical insurance/help through the state you live in..for example, in CA, we have Medi-cal. dont be afraid to get/ask for help if you need it.


Sue August 5, 2014 at 7:49 pm

Kim I so can relate to the weird head feeling thing I have had it everyday for about 3 years now.Drives me crazy,I think it is def. my worst symptom…..I turned 50 in April and so praying this will be over soon.Still having periods regularly :(
Hugs to you my fellow sufferer


Ellen August 8, 2014 at 1:49 am


I’ve been experiencing aches in different parts of my body (ribs, hips, arms, legs) and they are moving. Im 51 and still has period. Aches flare up before and during my period. I have already consulted a rheumatologist and blood tests are normal. Is this perimenopause? I hope this will end soon. Glad I found this site.


Shell August 29, 2014 at 1:11 pm

It is such a relief to know I am not alone! Like many of you, I’ve had several of the symptoms (hot flashes, leg cramps, mood swings, heart palpitations, thinning hair, etc.) and most of those have been overall tolerable. The absolute most annoying of all is the brain fog and that weird head sensation. So hard to describe to anyone unless you’ve had it. Not dizzy, not vertigo, just “off”. Feels like if I turn my head too fast, I’ll get dizzy but I don’t — not to mention the brain fog / forgetfulness. I’ve had conversations with people and then completely forgotten we’ve discussed things, then remember it later. Very frustrating, especially at work, when I have to pretend I remember stuff that I don’t. I did talk to my gyno and regular md and feel better knowing I’m at least physically ok. Hopefully my head will float back down to my body soon and I’ll be the former me again :-)


Sue August 31, 2014 at 1:23 pm

You have described exactly how I have felt for the last 3 years I thought it was just me! It is just sucking the life out of me all I want to do is feel myself again or at least better than this. All my doctors just think I have depression and anxiety but I don’t think so.I am 50 years old .I never thought a person could feel this awful for so long……wishes to all of us for healing gs


Debbie Cartier November 18, 2014 at 12:55 pm

Wow yall are describing me….nakes ne want to cry… just turned 50 Nov 2…who am I ?.. I literally feel so very off kilter ….I to feel very unbalanced I hate it….and im a very an xiuous person anyway..I think I had ny first panick attack ehen I was 18..omg NOT FUN. ….I love all u ladies..God please br with us. ..we pray for relief!!!!….Amen


jojo September 1, 2014 at 9:24 am

Hi all
I would firstly like to say how grateful I am to all you ladies on here for being so honest and open about your symptoms, you have no idea how much you have helped me. until I found this wonderful site, like so many others , I felt so lonely and out of control. I have been to the docs re my symptoms , but quite frankly I felt fobbed off. I did have bloods taken, around 8 months ago and they came back normal. I also think that maybe if doctors listened and took ladies with peri symptoms more seriously then maybe we would be able to cope with them a little easier as we would know that it is normal. im not sure what my periods are doing as i am on the mini pill, so they have stopped. I have headaches every day, brain fog, poor concentration, dizziness ,im tired all the time and cant remember when i had a full night of sleep, im moody, irritable, ive gained a stone, my interest in sex has gone, i forget everything, including peoples names and words mid sentence, and some night sweats, although not too many. but the worst is the butterflies in the stomach all the time, the extreme anxiousness and low mood, bad thoughts and at times im too nervous to leave my home, im scared of everything and feel overwhelmed by felling’s of dread and doom. i don’t feel like me anymore and just want the old me back. good to know im not the only one and i am so sorry for all you ladies who are going through this. thanks again for your posts, they help loads. xxx


Shell September 4, 2014 at 9:58 am

Hang in there! Like you, all of my blood work came back normal too. One thing that helped me tremendously was getting off the pill. My gyno said it was too much hormone for me at this stage. I was having headaches, dizziness, and visual aura’s too. The day I stopped taking the pill, that all stopped. Since I’ve been off the pill, no periods at all going on 8 months now. It has also seemed to helped my weird head feeling some but it’s still not gone. The brain fog, head feeling does seem to be worse at different times during the month and on “bad brain days” if I have one glass of wine you’d swear I had 5. My gyno did say the reduced tolerance for alcohol is definitely hormonal. Anyway, you may want to talk to your doc about no pill at all and see if that may be an option for you. Just to share with all, I am 50 just so you know where I am in age related to my symptoms. Hope this helps!


kim September 24, 2014 at 12:37 pm

I have always had horrible heavy periods and irregular. 5 yrs ago I had a ablasion. Had tues tied at age 22. I’m 43. And 2 mo ago I went down hill when my period started. I went crazy. Couldn’t get out of bed. Didn’t eat. Horrible thoughts. Low temp n blood pressure. Cold n then body on fire. Anxiety bad bad. Went to 2 dr n they wanted me on antidepressant. All blood work normal. Then I found a homeopathic dr and she did saliva test. My estrone was 395. I’m now on compounding progesterone and several supplements. This is most horrible thing ever! Also we are going organic best we can.. I’m so sorry for anyone that’s goes thru this.. I’m still scared.. my husband has been home w me for 3 weeks.. good luck ladies!


kim September 24, 2014 at 12:46 pm

I meant tues tied at 22… Also bad insomnia and waking up w full anxiety n doom when I did sleep.. This has and is horrible


Pet October 7, 2014 at 4:30 pm

Firstly I like to say what a super page this is
So much honest and open advice it’s like a breath of
Fresh air !
Please could you help me out ladies
I’m 35 and have been experiencing most of the symptoms
You are describing , the mood swings are terrible
I can sleep forever and I’m still tired out , crying at nothing and everything
And feeling like I’m losing my mind and control of everything around me
But I still have regular heavy periods and my gp says I might be to young for this to be
Happening which makes me feel even more lost !! Any advice anyone


Shell October 9, 2014 at 2:51 pm


Hang in there! I hope the supplements are helping level things out a bit. Terrible you’ve been feeling so bad. The insomnia is irritating. In my case, it’s more the waking up every 2 hours or so. I do sleep, just very lightly now and rarely all night. Sounds like you found a good doc that is helping to figure things out. Let us know how the compounds and supplements work out.


Shell October 9, 2014 at 2:59 pm


I would recommend getting a second opinion from a gyno that specializes in menopause. Although 35 is young to start the process, it happens all the time (my mother-in-law was 35). If the women in your family were younger, odds are you will be too. A second opinion never hurts and at least discussing with a different doctor may provide you with additional information, especially if peri/menopause is their area of expertise. Best of luck!


Found the solution October 10, 2014 at 5:40 pm

Thanks, Magnolia, for starting this blog! : )

I TOTALLY AGREE with everything “Jenni, from Brisbane Australia” has to say about the value of Bio-identical Hormone Replacement in her post (April 29, 2014 at 8:52 pm).

I’m 52 and haven’t had a period for over a year so would be considered in full menopause at this point. I can still feel the monthly fluctuations in my hormones- Sometimes I feel sad/depressed, or agitated/anxious for a day or two, but am able to address it by adjusting my BHRT to take more or less bi-estrogen cream or progesterone according to my symptoms. I sleep well and feel good and mentally balanced most of the time. I also look at least 10 years younger than most women my age, and know it’s at least partially due to replacing the hormones my body isn’t making anymore.

I started reading up on BHRT and searching for a doctor/naturopath/holistic medicine practitioner when I first noticed peri-menopause symptoms, at about 38 years of age. At the time, I was working, going through a stressful divorce, and dealing with the teenager from hell. My adrenals were exhausted; I was having the panic attacks, sadness, anxiety, and emotional fragility others have described here- Struggling not to let my employer see how shaky I felt, wondering if this is what it feels like to have a mental breakdown, and just willing myself to keep going. At one point I had menstrual bleeding that just wouldn’t stop, which also made me anemic.

I needed and found a practitioner (who happens to be a female naturopath- I love that woman : )), who was open to doing a complete test of my hormone levels and then replacing and balancing what was missing, rather than doing what most doctors have been educated to do, which is to tell me my hormone levels are “normal for a woman my age”, and then prescribe anti-depressants (which have little effect for most women) and/or synthetic hormones (which mask symptoms but because our body doesn’t recognize them as the real thing, the damage from lack of hormones continues). She diagnosed, treated and healed my adrenal problem; Carefully checked my thyroid hormones and prescribed a small amount of bio-identical T-3/T-4; Prescribed a small amount of sublingual DHEA; Also, bio-identical bi-est cream (which I’m able to order from Super Supplements online without a prescription) and a (compounded) bio-identical progesterone capsule, which I take before bed (it helps me to relax and sleep well).

I recognize that women who have a genetic predisposition for breast cancer may not feel comfortable using bi-est cream, but for me the benefits FAR outweigh any risk (By the way, the studies that scare everyone away from estrogen use were done on women using NON-bioidentical estrogen made from mare’s urine – Hence the name “premarin”). Our bodies manufacture our own estrogen all through our younger years, and it’s not a problem then. Logically, then, as long as cancer is not already present in the body, the benefits of estrogen outweigh any risk, at least for me : )

It’s often difficult to find a provider who is knowledgeable about BHRT and willing to order the proper tests, discern what is needed in what amounts, and prescribe. It took time, persistence and patience for me to find a responsive medical provider who is knowledgeable on the subject of BHRT, have all these tests done/ properly read, and get my hormones balanced; And as I grow older and my body continues to change, re-testing and adjustments need to be done- But for me the trouble and expense is more than worth it- I feel great!!

My feeling is that a woman needs to be proactive about her own health and well-being… My advice to women going through this process: Empower and Educate yourself; Read books on BHRT and decide if it’s a good option for you; If so, do some research and find out if various doctors prescribe BHRT- Eventually you’ll find one who will listen to you and respect your decisions regarding the care of your own body!! Since we are all individuals, adjusting and re-balancing hormones can take time, but most women begin to feel “more like themselves” pretty quickly : )

I also agree with those who suggested exercise- Getting outside for a walk or some form of exercise; I took up social dancing, which has almost become a (healthy) addiction for me- Very therapeutic! : ))

And the final essential: We all need a female friend (or two or three, like on this blog) to talk with. It’s fine to pay a shrink, but there’s no shrink like a a best-buddy : ) Mountain climbers don’t climb alone, divers don’t dive alone, and we shouldn’t go through menopause alone. Ever seen a picture of old village women in Asia or Russia, sitting together and smiling? : ) I recommend getting on line and joining a “meetup” group, if you need to make some friends.

I hope sharing my own journey here gives others hope and encourages them in their quest to find a solution that works for them! : )


karen December 2, 2014 at 5:31 pm

i suffer an i am 57 antidepressants makes it worse an headaches an going crazy dizziness the worst of it


Mary December 29, 2014 at 12:07 am

I’m trying to post this page on Facebook, but when click on it it takes to home page, I want people to read all the testimonials



Julie January 2, 2015 at 6:46 pm

I am a 48 and had an endometrial ablation over a year ago because of crazy non stop period that lasted 6 weeks. The Dr said I had a polyp. All of a sudden 8 weeks ago I started waking up feeling like i was having an adrenaline surge at 6 am. Feels terrible, racing heart, sweats, dizzy. This has now developed into full blown horrible daily anxiety that starts every morning at 6 am. In the evening I seem to come back down and can function like normal. I am also feeling very depressed and have never had an issue with this before. I have always had bad PMS. I think it is my hormones but don’t know. I know my vitamin D is low at 24 and I am on 50,000 IU weekly. I feel like I am losing my mind and it is becoming a daily struggle to get through this. My regular OB is treating the Vit D but says hormones won’t show up on a blood test. I just need to have my life back and finally have an appointment next week with a bio identical hormone specialist. Any input or someone going through this same thing please reply.
I am really feeling horrible even as I write this as it has been going on now for 8 weeks and I am scared I will never feel normal again!


Sabrina January 4, 2015 at 11:58 am

Hello. I’m a 44 year old woman who had a complete hysterectomy 8 years ago. Around the first week of every month since then, I start to feel like I’m going out of my mind. I’m not on any estrogens, because I’ve heard they can cause cancer after taken for a long period. I feel like crying at times just relieve some of the stress. Please help me, I don’t want to feel like this forever..


Tracy January 19, 2015 at 1:41 pm

I feel so good reading these things and now not feeling so alone. I am 47 years old and lately I feel like I am completely out of control. I cannot focus, think straight, keep any train of thought and now I am overly emotional about everything, and have anxiety attacks for no reason. I can be sitting at my desk at work and fight to hold back tears and I don’t even know what I am crying about most of the time. Example of life for me right now: Last weekend My boyfriend and son ground some deer meat into burger and afterward I was cleaning a plastic tub and my boyfriend (who is a wonderful man) simply told me to not worry about cleaning and sit down and talk to my son, who was only standing 3 feet away from me. I immediately took offense and got hateful and then my son who is 23 years old simply agreed with him, saying “yeh don’t worry about it.” I immediately felt like these two were ganging up on me and I started fighting with them over something as simple as not doing the dishes at that moment. They looked at me as if I were crazy, while ranting and raving and crying and then looked at each other as if I were crazy and I ended up telling both of these men, who I love dearly to both f*ck off, then going to my bedroom and crying. Looking back on this, I can only imagine just how crazy I actually looked and while I apologized to both and they both said it was okay, now I have been crying ever since because of the guilt I feel for doing it in the first place. I do not even know who I was that night and I am scared to death I will run off people in my life that I love dearly, because I am flipping out. I know I need to see a doctor, but I do not want to be put on anything not natural. I feel like I am losing control of my own life and I thank God right now that these two men are so understanding. I don’t want to get into the subject of peri-menopause with either of them, because no one likes to admit they are getting old, especially when my boyfriend is 4 years younger than me, on the other hand I don’t want them to think I need to be committed to a mental institution.


Susan January 19, 2015 at 7:51 pm

Hi Ladies,
I have been sick since July 2012. I had to retire early from my career as a dental asst. Due to being so sick in the morning. Kaiser just threw hormone therapy and anti depressants at me, but I quit cold turkey when I got so frustrated that the medications weren’t helping. Unfortunately, they don’t tell you how horrible the effects will be when you go off the meds. I am now going to a homeopathic doctor that started me on a plant derived tincture. For the most part I am better, but I just started a new job and now I’m feeling sick again. This July will be 3 years. It’s been hell! M still having periods, but seem to not feel well just before, during and after. I’m so sick of being sick and tired!
But it is good to have all of you ladies … I feel less alone.
Thank you and be well ladies.


Rita January 21, 2015 at 3:19 pm

Hi everyone….

So glad I found this site……..just googling like crazy to try to make sense of myself.
I am 50 years old, still getting periods every month, though they have become a bit erratic and lighter, shorter.

I can so empathize with all of you. I have been feeling so bad for months now. I just went to the dr, and she ran a estrogen and progesterone blood tests. (and thyroid too)The results are confusing to me. Estrogen is 246, and Progesterone is 4.3. She said they are normal, but did also say that they may not be normal for me, which I appreciated, cause some doctors just tell you normal and send you on your way. She is going to try me out on a estrogen cream to see if that helps. But I sure don’t feel normal. The number one most annoying symptom is the shakiness I feel. Almost always constant. I ended up in the er in November, and they told me it’s just anxiety. So, he gave me some Xanax. I don’t have sweats, but do get hot, although my temp is usually almost always lower than 98. She said my thyroid is normal. Which it has been in the past too. My blood pressure is sometimes high, sometimes on the lower end. My heart rate is almost always high, close to 100 or even above sometimes. I find it hard to breathe sometimes, and my feet are always freezing cold.

Just thought I’d share my story, it makes me feel a little better to know I’m not the only one

Here’s to hoping we all feel better.


Erin January 27, 2015 at 2:33 am

I am 36 and have had symptoms for 2 years. I feel like I am going crazy, esp when my husband and I fight. The BHT has helped some, but my fatigue can be so severe, like every drop of energy has drained from me. I spend all day trying not to be stressed so as to conserve my energy so I can be a mom when my kids get home from school. Previously I was a high energy go getter, striving for my black belt in karate, but now I had to quit everything. I am afraid to exercise, bc I am always conserving my energy for when it is most needed. I used to be a thrill seeker, but a couple of days ago found myself crying and dizzy because I couldn’t handle sitting in the nosebleed section of a stadium!

What can I do to help with these energy crisis? My kids and husband need me to be strong.


Dena January 30, 2015 at 12:04 pm

I’m am so glad for your sight I have read one post after another think there had to be something seriously wrong with me I feel horrible all the time and literally hide in my home and have nothing to do with anyone ..my poor kids think I’m nuts and avoid me which about kills me I have always been so close to my kids but I’m a serious grouch and I don’t blame them for avoiding me . I have heart palpitations and everything hurts and I’m so tired it’s sicking I could of run circles around most people even at the age of 48 now I’m a couch vegetable …I have changed my diet stopped smoking sleeping more and trying like he’ll to exercise ..I hope this ends soon or everyone will disown me :-( one question has anyone used any of the over the counter stuff like estroven how did it go??? I do use a herb called evening primrose it has helped with hot flashes and helped with some mood swings and edrenal stress


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