35 Symptoms of Perimenopause

by Magnolia on September 5, 2014

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When I was in the midst of the worst of my perimenopause symptoms, I had one over-riding thought:

“I’m going crazy”

Yes, I had hot flashes, night sweats, irregular periods and those gawdawful mood-swings. But without question, the underlying and most compelling emotion was that I was certain I was finally going nuts. In fact, it was my anxiety and emotional turmoil that drove me to begin blogging about perimenopause in the first place.

Like most women, I needed to talk through my anxiety and emotional angst so that I could sort through the feelings and make some sense out of what was happening to me. Perhaps that is what has brought you here as well. Maybe you’re feeling crazy too, vulnerable, not yourself, and hanging on by a very thin thread. So, before I go any further, let me say very plainly – I understand, and you are not going crazy.

It’s difficult to explain to others who have not been through it, what perimenopause feels like. It’s especially difficult to explain to our husbands who can’t begin to understand or even remotely connect to the female experience. Not only is this frustrating but it can add to the feelings of isolation and vulnerability.

The symptoms and signs of perimenopause are long and varied. You may have many or a few. There is no typical perimenopausal experience, though most women seem to have hot flashes, night sweats, irregular periods and mood-swings. In fact, these four symptoms are usually what signals to women that they are in perimenopause – which, by the way are similar to Yaz birth control side effects, which you can learn about at DrugNews.

As of right now, most experts, health care providers and those devoted to understanding and helping women in perimenopause agree there are at least 35 symptoms of perimenopause. It’s not necessarily a comprehensive list but it’s certainly a good starting point.

If you have any of these symptoms and feel you may be in perimenopause see a physician or health care provider right away. The good news is we have plenty of options. Just do something. There is no reason to suffer with perimenopause if we don’t have to.

35 Symptoms of Perimenopause

  • Hot flashes, flushes, night sweats and/or cold flashes, clammy feeling
  • Irregular heart beat
  • Irritability
  • Mood swings, sudden tears
  • Trouble sleeping through the night (with or without night sweats)
  • Irregular periods; shorter, lighter periods; heavier periods, flooding; phantom periods, shorter cycles, longer cycles
  • Loss of libido
  • Dry vagina
  • Crashing fatigue
  • Anxiety, feeling ill at ease
  • Feelings of dread, apprehension, doom
  • Difficulty concentrating, disorientation, mental confusion
  • Disturbing memory lapses
  • Incontinence, especially upon sneezing, laughing; urge incontinence
  • Itchy, crawly skin
  • Aching, sore joints, muscles and tendons
  • Increased tension in muscles
  • Breast tenderness
  • Headache change: increase or decrease
  • Gastrointestinal distress, indigestion, flatulence, gas pain, nausea
  • Sudden bouts of bloat
  • Depression
  • Exacerbation of existing conditions
  • Increase in allergies
  • Weight gain
  • Hair loss or thinning, head, pubic, or whole body; increase in facial hair
  • Dizziness, vertigo, light-headedness, episodes of loss of balance
  • Changes in body odor
  • Electric shock sensation under the skin and in the head
  • Tingling in the extremities
  • Gum problems, increased bleeding
  • Burning tongue, burning roof of mouth, bad taste in mouth, change in breath odor
  • Osteoporosis (after several years)
  • Changes in fingernails: softer, crack or break easier
  • Tinnitus: ringing in ears, bells, ‘whooshing,’ buzzing etc.
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Rachael April 5, 2015 at 11:41 pm

Hi all, I’m 45 and everything has gone haywire – particularly my GI tract! Has anyone else developed problems with reflux-type symptoms, chest pain and unexplained stomach pain? Ive had a gastroscopy (nothing showed) – but I’m flushing frequently, nauseated and experience extreme pain in my chest, back and sternum area every time I eat (nothing showing from blood tests either). Have lost 10 kilos in 7 months and wondering if it’s possible that this is tied to hormone changes?

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Kimberly D. April 8, 2015 at 7:14 pm

Yes!! Absolutely!! Everything you have mentioned!! And my anxiety is through the roof at times!! It is a wild, crazy, miserable ride!! I am so sorry you are going through this..but it is nice to know I am not alone and going crazy or dying…

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Cindy April 23, 2015 at 9:34 am

Does a gastroscopy check your gallbladder? I had very similar symptoms for years and found out I had gallstones when I was pregnant at 37. Precursors are the 4 F’s – female, fertile, forty, fat…
My mother-in-law is tiny, but in her 40’s she thought she was having a heart attack went to the hospital and found out it was a gallbladder attack.
A simple fasting sonogram will reveal gallstones if that is the cause.
Unfortunately, I still experience minor symptoms that I’m sure are related to peri menopause, now I’m just extremely uncomfortable rather than excruciatingly miserable.
Good luck!

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Ann May 6, 2015 at 7:46 am

I have all of those symptoms. The anxiety about the possible cause is through the roof. I’m hungry but can’t eat much. I have abdominal pain, gurgling, bloating and indigestion. Nothing prepared you for it. I hope you find something to relieve your symptoms.

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Christina April 8, 2015 at 7:11 pm

Would love to chat with someone about their symptoms….crazy how I have almost all of these symptoms…I feel a little better now and will be seeing my doctor at the end of the month.

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Susan April 12, 2015 at 11:42 am

I am so relieved to hear others are going through some of the same symptoms that I am. I’m 54 years old and still having irregular periods. The mood swings, crying, anxiety and gastrointestinal symptoms are the most difficult to deal with and can greatly affect life. We women need not be alone and can support one another, especially on sites such as these. Thanks for listening and God bless you all.

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Jeanne B. April 9, 2015 at 10:06 am

Lord have mercy, I have 23 of these symptoms. OK, so I’m NOT going nuts. I’m NOT having premonitions of doom. The bathtub is NOT about to fall through the floor when I shower (and hit “standing turbulence”), I’m just experiencing vertigo. It’s mah GD hormones!

I love being a Crone…

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Rachael April 10, 2015 at 5:21 am

That’s really illuminating – I’m experiencing the shower and bath vertigo too. I nearly collapsed at the swimming pool yesterday – simply leaving the water and coming to standing makes the whole building tilt and my vision go dark for a few seconds. Ah…joy. Also brings on hot flushes…

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jo April 12, 2015 at 2:18 am

I am hearing all of what you are saying. I am almost 49 and am also perimenopausal. Worst ever Indigestion which comes and goes ( resulting in a low appetite and weight loss). flushes ( cold and clammy ones). Aching shoulders, headaches ( which I get anyway). Crashing Fatigue, etc etc. The list goes on. Iron Deficiency Anaemia caused by a uterine polyp. Welcome to a woman’s world.

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Susane April 13, 2015 at 9:21 am

Ok, so this might be a totally stupid question but have any of you experienced loss of smell and taste? My dr seems to think it’s my sinuses because I have severe allergies and get horrible sinusitis attacks at least once a week. The loss of taste comes and goes but the loss of smell has so far been with me for awhile now. It is driving me nuts but I guess it could be worse. I am just wondering if this could be another menopausal nightmare to deal with? Thank you ladies for any insight to this.

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CrazyAuntie April 24, 2015 at 7:17 pm

Susane, I have lost quite a bit of my taste, too! Sometimes my sense of smell is diminished, and sometimes I swear I can smell from rooms away. Nice to know I am not alone in that, thank you for asking!!!

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Mindy April 27, 2015 at 12:18 am

My sense of taste has diminished. Bring on the salt. Nothing is salty enough for me and things taste ‘different’, than they used to. Not as yummy and it’s a drag. And the worst is at 54 I have pregnancy like symptoms, which I was relieved to read, was a characteristic of this phase in our lives. Thanks a lot Eve!

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Susane May 9, 2015 at 4:15 pm

Thank you ladies! I feel better knowing it’s not just me but hate it for you guys!

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Lisa April 14, 2015 at 1:33 am

Hello ladies,
I have read the symptoms and almost all of them apply to me. I recently turned 43 and have been going through the list for the past 2 or so years. The reason I am posting is period related. I did not have my period last month, now it is so heavy, lasting way longer and with clotting. I have never clotted before and it is freaking me out, anxiety is through the roof, really bad thoughts like I have cancer and I’m dying thoughts. Also really bad crying spurts, I feel like such a sissy baby, watching a freaking tv commercial will set me off… I have never had to change a super tampon after only 2 hours. I am also experiencing severe lower back pain, so bad that it makes me feel sick. I am just freaking out and I guess I just need reassurance that this normal and I’m not dying..

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Mishelle April 29, 2015 at 2:15 pm

Lisa – I have been dealing with the horribly heavy bleeding over the past 16 months, too, on and off. I looked it up last year and it’s natural, though horribly annoying. I’ve had to double up on pads overnight and still change them 4-5 times overnight. And the crying just started up the past couple of months – exactly the same. Watching silly videos, happy videos, commercials, and I turn in to a blubbering baby. My mother told me that’s definitely another sign. So glad to hear that I’m not the only one either!

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crissy April 15, 2015 at 1:45 pm

Hi! I am 41 years old. Can most of these symptoms just come on suddenly?? I started having joint pain last summer, went to see an arthritis doctor and he said it was normal wear and tear….i disagree, Also over the last few months i have been noticing my heart fluttering alot more. I am on the Pill which makes my periods light, but last month it came early and was still light but lasted longer. I have also been experiencing almost constant nausea….Im just wondering how quickly symptoms can start happening??

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Kimberly D. April 15, 2015 at 6:41 pm

I experience most of these symptoms..Does anyone experience quickly getting extreme ly fatigue within minutes of doing alittle activity? Body will feel like I ran a marathon..Legs ache the worse..

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Susane April 16, 2015 at 10:25 am

Most definitely kimberly! There are some days when I don’t have to do anything to feel fatigued. My legs and arms feel weak and feel like my legs won’t support me. I also get muscle cramps in my legs and feet. It is very frustrating especially when you are dealing with other symptoms at the same time. Of course the Dr’s can’t find anything and all tests come back normal! For those women going through this and working full time outside the home, I must say that you are my heros! I cannot imagine holding down a full time job and dealing with the home and family also. There are some days when I don’t have the energy to vacuum the floor! I am told this goes away eventually so all we can do is pray for that day and keep our sense of humor!

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jean May 17, 2015 at 8:21 pm

Hallelujah ! I’m not alone… I am 50 and went off birth control last November. Since then I have experienced non-stop tinnitus and fatigue (like when I was pregnant). Very heavy periods, never used a super tampon before now I change it every 3 hours. I nap an hour during the day after sleeping uninterrupted for 8 hours at night ! I can’t imagine having to work full time, my heart goes out to those who do with the onslaught of these debilitating symptoms! We must remember to be gentle with ourselves at this time : )

All the best, jean

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Dawn April 16, 2015 at 12:14 pm

Hi all. I am sorry but I could weep with pain. I desperately want another baby and the peri menopausal phase has been delayed by a baby at 40,46, and 47. Now by body has gone to bits . I am absolutely furious with my husband as he did not want a baby so made my choice, not I made it . ( this is related to personal relationship history). I honestly feel finished as being pregnant, my children are my life. Please do not judge about my feelings as I honestly can’t take it . I know God sent my children and am so blessed. Now for first time I haven’t had a period and read twenty per cent of women can just stop having periods. I can’t cope inside. Sorry for going on . I have no one to talk to about this . Love to you all . Thanks

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Christine April 18, 2015 at 12:08 am

Hi all,

While searching the internet, this web site popped up and so glad it did! I just turned 53 and have been having feelings like I’m losing it, just hanging by a tiny string, but have had other health problems in addition to the perimenopause. At the end of October of last year, I completed treatment for hepatitis C which was diagnosed in 1997. For the past 6 years before treatment, both of my hands were covered in a rash and that rash has mostly cleared after the treatment, although it left my hands severely scarred. There have been several other weird symptoms which I had hoped would resolve after clearing the hepatitis C virus also, but they haven’t. Now I’m wondering what is causing these. One of them is facial swelling and purplish rash around my eyes and cheeks (looks similar to sunburn but with swelling) that happens randomly and lasts for days to weeks. When it starts to dissipate, I then having very dry scaly thick skin that flakes off where my face was swollen, which is also leaving scars. My anxiety has been through the roof on some days and I’ve been having elevated blood pressure, fast heart rate, insomnia, night sweats, weird purpura marks on arms and chest, very dry mouth, a rash on my buttocks with almost skin breakdown, joint and muscle pain, and problems with vision lately. Also, I’ve not had a period since December. I found some of these symptoms listed above but don’t know if all of these are due to perimenopause, especially the facial rash. Would love to know if anyone else is experiencing any of these type symptoms, as I am confused as to what kind of doctor to see if this is not perimenopause. Thank you for reading.

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Paula Harvey April 19, 2015 at 3:49 pm

Hello, I just found this blog and it has made me feel “normal” and for that I thank y’all!! I was having issues with irregular periods starting about a year ago, but prior to that I developed electrical shocks in my face, which I just always felt like it was connected to a root canal, and went to a neurologist. After that I developed severe tingling in my wrist which took me to be tested for carpel tunnel. Last September I was hospitalized with divirticulitis, which was udderly crazy bc I have never had any instestinal issues my whole life. I mention ALL of this bc now I am putting two and two together and am wondering if I had been having perimenapausal symptoms without realizing it! Since the bout with divirticulitis, due to the antibiotics wiping out my gut flora, I have really suffered with depression and anxiety. I am better for sure than I was 6 months ago, but am wondering how long has any of you experienced these things, will they pass, am I going to be gobs of supplements for the rest of my life? Any input would be appreciated!

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Shelley April 19, 2015 at 7:20 pm

I am so thankful I found this site. I will be 50 in a month and it just seems as if everything has hit me at once. Last year I developed Tinnitus out of the blue, I always thought it had something to do with this. Just this year so far my knees hurt, I’m exhaused, so very forgetful which is not at all like me and my heart races. I find my emotions all over the board, doesn’t help that my kids are starting to move out. I just started having in between period spotting is this normal? It scares me because I had an abnormal pap in Jan but my doc said wait 6 months to recheck, I’m not sure if I’m comfortable with that, what do you all think?

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LucindaC April 27, 2015 at 7:21 pm

Shelley,
I’m 46 and developed Tinnitus out of the blue as well! My emotions are out of control, I can’t remember things from one day to the next, I’m getting a good 4-6 days of spotting before my periods, irregular heartbeats….. I’m also in the middle of a separation and on my own so the neurologist I was referred to told me he thought it was all just stress-related. And like you, it seems like everything (and then some) hit me at once! I honestly thought I was going crazy and have even recently considered starting counseling. I hate that we’re all going through it but it sure helps to know we’re not alone! I hope and pray your pap is ok and all goes well with you! Hang in there – it has to get better than this!

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jean May 17, 2015 at 8:36 pm

I turned 50 last September, went off birth control in November and have had non-stop tinnitus since. I just found this wonderful blog today and realize that it is peri-menopause causing this, along with incredible fatigue. Shelley, I am not a Dr, however I can share my experience with abnormal PAP’s. I’ve had 2 in the last 10 years and they’ve both resolved on their own (after getting checked again in 6 months) I’ve been told that the tests today are soooo sensitive that they pick up the slightest irregularity. It is scary, but your are doing everything right and being proactive with your health. Have faith in your body to heal itself. Jean

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Micheller April 20, 2015 at 1:17 pm

I turned 37 in February. I am experiencing all of these symptoms except the bleeding gums, burning tongue, and osteoporosis. I feel completely alone, since I don’t have any female relatives around, did some research and found this site. Sometimes I feel out if control of my life. Hot flashes barely more embarrassing than anything because my entire face will turn red (I’m really light complected) and stay that way sometimes for up to an hour. Ironic how I can suffer from insomnia and fatigue at the same time. The dizziness and loss of libido is what really irritates me.

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Mel May 14, 2015 at 9:02 pm

I will be 37 in a month and am experiencing alot of these symptoms too. Tingling in my arms and legs, the electric shocks, crazy mood swings, crazy heart palpatations, and on and on. Was thinking I had a heart condition mixed with pms. Thought I was too young for perimenopause but am thinking that’s what it is now.

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Kat April 20, 2015 at 3:18 pm

So happy I found this blog – I turned 50 in September, and for the past two months, I suffer from severe CRS (Can’t Remember S*it). Seriously, I have forgotten things in my high-pressure job that I NEVER have before. Stupid mistakes. I bought Ginko to help, but I keep forgetting to take it! Depression too – for no dang reason. Life really is good. This Perimenopause, not so much!

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Ana April 22, 2015 at 11:02 am

Hello I am ana, I identify with all . I am 48 years old and I have long been feeling each one of the mentioned symptoms , this is horrible ! I have come to the point of having panic to go to sleep, I do not want to sleep anymore! . While im trying to sleep the symptoms are worse !!!!!!! Does any of you know why ? Blessings to all

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Patrea April 28, 2015 at 12:48 pm

ANA
I believe … or atleast I was told by an MD that your estrogen drops early morning
Get the book Female Brain Gone Insane on Amazon.. great book!

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Sonya May 14, 2015 at 1:18 am

Huh! Thats great to know my FHS was 24 and labs were done at 9 am .. and that makes sense since every morning I feel sick to my stomach.. and feverish (not hot flash though) but I have a hard time getting out of bed in the mornings.. almost like I was preggers, which is impossible, I had a partial hysterectomy a yr and a half ago when I was 39 .

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melissa April 22, 2015 at 3:28 pm

This site is a God’s sent, but I’m a bit scare and feeling something is seriously wrong with me,i havemore than half of the symptoms listed,im just 38yrs and have not seen my period for 12months, anxiety is something else,irritability,chest pain like heart attack will happen next sec,body aches,have never feel like this in my life. Is there anything like drugs that can reduce this? Is it not too early to start having all these. One moment I’m assured it’s okay, the next I felt like I’m caving in. Pls say something to me

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Magnolia April 22, 2015 at 4:44 pm

Melissa,

Yes, you are on the young side for full blown menopause. However, if you haven’t had your period for more than a year, then medically speaking, you are menopausal. I would strongly recommend that you see an endocrinologist or a very experienced gynecologist who can help you with your symptoms.

While it’s not unheard of for women to start entering menopause in their late 30s, it is a bit early for menopause. I would want to make sure that there is not some other issue which is causing hormone imbalance and keeping you from having your cycles. So please do not delay. But, also please do not panic.

It might just be that you really went into menopause very early.

Magnolia

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Dawn zellers April 23, 2015 at 9:15 pm

I’m just recently going thru this and am 42. Many family issues as well. This sucks to go thru alone. My mom has cancer and ms and needed to be in a nursing home. It’s hurting me so bad that she’s there but cannot find the help I need for her to be home. And with this stupid girl issue I’m going thru doesn’t help. . So I guess I’m saying HELP! I didn’t know that menopause happens so early. Ugh!!

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Marj April 25, 2015 at 4:06 pm

I just ran across this site and reading the list has answered so many questions. I have been asking myself “what this heck is this all about” regarding so many of the issues listed. I had no idea that these were symptoms of peri menopause. I of course knew about the obvious ones (hot flashes, sweating), but had no idea of so many others that I’m experiencing. I feel so thankful to know that I’m not going crazy, it just feels like it. I have always been able to keep it together mentally through thick or thin. Now? I can’t keep anything together. So grateful to have found this site!~

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Jessica April 26, 2015 at 4:20 pm

I have so many of these symptoms and I’m only 30.I had to have a partial hysterectomy at 18 due to ovarian cancer. My oncologist prepared me for some of the symptoms I would have the older I get. He suggested once I am sure I’m done having babies that I have a total hysterectomy, but I’m just not ready for that. I think the worse symptoms would be the mood swings and joint pain right before my period. It really stinks to get old but we can’t be young forever. God bless all of you.

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Stephanie April 27, 2015 at 3:34 pm

Hey ladies, I’m quite a bit older than you all, so maybe I can offer some of you some hope.

I started going through menopause around early 27 yrs. old (1986). I was living in a large city at the time so I found out, after I got the courage up to talk about it, I wasn’t the only one going through it. I was meeting a LOT of women in my age range going through this.

The women I was meeting were going through this horrible “flooding”, that was our major complaint. We all went through the same things. We were having to double plug and double pad and still, at times were bleeding so heavily we couldn’t leave the house. Periods would last 10 days, extremely heavy and then stop for about a week and start back up again.

Some, it was suggested had endometriosis. I knew I had miscarried earlier in life and I thought at first, that must be what it was. But I was meeting an awful lot of other women going through the same thing and not all of us had had miscarriages.

The doctors were totally ignoring us. Telling us we were crazy. There was “No way you can be going through menopause at your age. You are too young!”

One woman I knew actually went through with a hysterectomy because of it. And because I was scared that this was going to continue on until I got into my 50’s, I was getting ready to do the same thing. I had found a doctor that was willing to do it.

I went to one last gynecologist. Just trying to find some answers. He put me on some hormone pills. I FELT WONDERFUL! But my hair started falling out! I had energy again.

I was asked, “did it even out or correct your periods”? NO, but I want those pills! “Sorry, we can’t give them to you long term.”

Bah humbug! For the first time in about four years they give me something that helps but they can only give them to me for a couple of months!

I was told by a friend, “Put off this idea of having a hysterectomy just a while longer. Having surgery is a permanent situation.” And the only reason I listened to this friend is because I didn’t want to have to take pills for the rest of my life.

And then, I met a woman who sat me down one day and we talked. She said, “Honey, I hate to break it to you but you are going through menopause.” And she told me her struggles with the same mess.

A couple of years after that sit-down talk, they had a little piece on the news that showed that women were suddenly starting to go through menopause earlier than normal. (And of course, they’ve normalized it by now, as if just because it is more common that it’s not out of the ordinary.)

By 2001, I had ceased having periods. I was 42.

I don’t take the pills. I rarely have hot flashes. When I was younger, I just set a glass of water by my bed just in case, (It helps, although I don’t know why).

Coincidentally, young girls started going through puberty a lot earlier during this same time and they reported on that back then too.

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LucindaC April 27, 2015 at 7:12 pm

When I was 43 I started experiencing intermittent hot flashes, sleep problems and night sweats. I asked my doctor if she thought I could be going into perimenopause and she insisted I was too young. I am now 46 and have recently felt I am going crazy! I landed in the ER back in January with dizziness, shortness of breath, intermittent spikes in my blood pressure, ringing in my ears and some chest pain. An EKG and chest x-ray confirmed nothing was going on with my heart. I was sent to a neurologist who subsequently told me he thought it was all stress related. In addition to my ears ringing, dizziness, occasional hot flashes and sleep disturbances, my periods have become erratic (spotting for 4-7 days and then a horrendously heavy flow for another 3-5 days) and I have fairly severe cramping for two or three days. I am also now suffering from PMS (which I had rarely experienced), mood swings and random crying spells for which I have no explanation. Oh…and my memory? Some days I’m lucky to remember what I did that morning! Last night was my final straw and I had a horrible emotional meltdown where I cried for hours because I feel like I’m going crazy and I don’t know why! After doing some reading, especially on this page, I am once more convinced I am in perimenopause! I have a new doc now that I really like and I’m hoping that at my appointment this week she confirms what I once more suspect! I can’t tell you all what it meant to read this page and to know that I’m not the only one and hopefully not really going crazy! lol Thank you, thank you, thank you!!!!

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sherylm May 19, 2015 at 5:49 pm

Hi Lucinda, Hope all is well. I too have been experiencing these awful symptoms and just woke up 2-3months ago and literally felt like I was going crazy, almost psychotic. It’s the doom/gloom, feeling of being crazy and deep fear and anxiety that has gotten to me. When I have these crazy feelings my mind tells me to take out to running, just crazy weird things. I guess that’s where the psychosis come in at. I started w/bioidentical progesterone about 4 months ago and has helped with some symptoms, but still traveling through this hormone imbalance terror called perimenopause. And I do take supplements as well. Best wishes in our speedy recovery from this.

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Patrea April 28, 2015 at 1:03 pm

Just found this blog….I have been dealing with severe symptoms for almost years… taking HRT now in desperation. Crazy symptoms of Anxiety, Metallic taste in mouth, crushing fatigue, and now dry heaving . This is the toughest time…. I got the book Female Brain Gone Insane on Amazon. This book details the chemical imbalance and what is actually happening… I finally after 5 months waiting going to an endocrinologist. My periods erratic and I feel like my brain has change from a focused, energetic state to foggy, teary, jiggy. From what I’ve read exercise and 5HTP (herb) helps a bit. “They” say we will get on the other side of this someday… I pray for feeling great again.

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Mich April 28, 2015 at 2:15 pm

Hello ladies….I am 45 and haven’t had a period in 10 months….my symptoms relate to MEMORY issues and BRAIN FOG. I seriously think at times that I am losing my mind. I find myself searching for words that are so easy, and no longer able to multi-task. I seem to forget things very easily, having to write things down on a sticky-note. Also, for no reason at all, I sometimes wake up in the morning with water-retention especially in my thighs and abdomen….and then the very next day, it’s all gone. YIKES…..how long does this go on???

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Louise April 29, 2015 at 3:20 pm

Hi,
I wanted to address someone mentioning tinnitus coming on out of the blue. The same thing happened to me. At the start of peri menopause, within a week I went from no ringing to extreemly loud noise. Imagine sitting on the roof of an ambulance with the siren on full blast non-stop day and night. I became suicidal from it. I had X-rays, cat scans and mri’s until I thought I would glow in the dark. Nothing was found. I went for specialized hearing tests and I have perfect hearing. The doctor put me on Ativan and that helped. The worst of the tinnitus lasted about 1 year and then slowly declined. Taking a relaxing bath helps too, I have learned that anything you can do to relax really helps bring the noise down…glass of wine, bath, walking, yoga, Ativan (which is also a muscle relaxant). I am now in my fourth year of peri menopause and the tinnitus is down to a whisper. So I wanted to reassure you if all your tests come back normal, then know it will get better. Your head will not be so full of the noise. I am still dealing with the other peri stuff and hope that it all goes away soon so I can get on with living. It can be very frustrating having no choice or say about what happens to us. Hang in there ladies. There is light at the end of this dark tunnel.

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may April 29, 2015 at 7:00 pm

Hi all, I am 43 and have most of the symptoms. I am most scared of my legs going numb, or tingling, or just feeling jelly and weak and shaky … I am even not sure if they hurt or not. Those things used to come and go, but right now I’ve been feeling like that for about a weak and there is no improvement … Anyone else with similar issues?

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Susane May 9, 2015 at 4:29 pm

Hi May! You are not alone! I have days when my legs feel so weak and shaky that I don’t think they will hold me up. I also get aches and pains in them as well. And then there are days that my arms will feel that way too. Hang in there, that’s all we can do!

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Linda May 13, 2015 at 11:29 am

Yes! Yes! And yes! Arms feel so heavy and tired sometimes I dislike it. The numbness feeling in my legs and feet that comes for a long time and then leaves then comes again other times. This I dislike the most!! It’s crazy how many test we all take and pay for ugh! At least we get relief knowing we are fine just perimenopause:) This time of life for women is stressful and I’m just praying my way through it:) have a blessed day!

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Louise May 1, 2015 at 1:39 am

Hi May, I had that too. I noticed about one year into my perimenopause a slight tingling odd sensation almost like a numbness in my finger tips. Then after a few months my feet started to feel that way too. After a year of this the tingling started to creep up my legs and arms. This really terrified me. Three years into perimenopause I had bad nerve pain in my legs that kept me awake for a few months. Yes I slept but the pain would wake me and the fear and anxiety added to it. I saw a neurologist who conducted all the never tests possible and all my nerves were working correctly. She dismissed me as suffering from anxiety. I still disagree somewhat that it is all anxiety. I believe it is my nerves reacting to a sudden dropping in hormones and the resultant imbalance of them. My bouts with anxiety certainly dont help anything but finally now that I am finishing my fourth year of perimenopause, July 13 will be the start of my fifth year as that is when my body took a nose dive into hormonal hell. But, I have notice something wonderful. The tingling and numbness are dissipating. I still feel abit of tingling but it is definitely subsiding and no more nerve pain. Oh it is quite a relief, physically and emotionally. So now I truely believe it is hormones or the imbalance of them that are the root cause. I do notice a week or day here and there where the tingling is more pronounce but on the whole it is going away. Also, I too struggled with weak, jelly legs. Sometimes they felt so weak and tired that I wondered if they would support my weight at all. This too is passing, I only have occasional bouts but the first three years…oiy! It was hard and so very scary. And oh boy, the anxiety during those years was debilitating. It would get so bad I felt crazy…and looked that way to my family. Sometimes it would get so bad there was no reasoning with me. I was convinced of something terrifying and the only thing that would help with those episodes was a dose of Ativan. I guess some of us are just super duper sensitive to hormonal fluctuations. I am not yet out of the woods however in the distance I finally see a dim glimmer of light which I haven’t seen in over three years and did not believe anyone who told me there was light at the end of this. Go get some nerve tests done to ensure nothing else is going on and work with your doctor to manage the symptoms. Hang in there.

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SHannon O'Hare May 3, 2015 at 7:25 am

I’m 43. I’m having flushes (but mostly in the evenings?!) and night sweats. I have memory issues and anxiety and a low mood. I have trouble sleeping. Unfortunately, I also have Adhd which has me diagnosed with mild insomnia. It also causes memory issues, distractability and low mood. It has recently come to my attention that although I have a brother and siste, neither is able to have the sort of relationship with me which I see others having with siblings and this makes me sad. So the only thing I could definately say is out of the ordinary is tearfulness and flushes/sweats. I have the most amazing partner but feel very alone right now. Kinda relieved to be able to say that.

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Jenn G May 3, 2015 at 10:39 am

Hi all. I am so happy I read most,of the comments and I could simply say thank you thank you thank you, I am 44 yrs old and two yrs I visited a women’s dr, and she did mention that I might be peri menopause, in my naive state of mind I was in shock and disbelief, not so early, I thought this would start when I would be in my 54 55, anyhow fast forward, two yr ,later or say this morning. I had a moment, and by divine intervention I found this website, and I could totally relate to every situation, I really thought I was going crazy, what I need to know is how do we control, this I feel every Monday morning I have an aliment of some sorts,Thank you all for being so honest, I have feel more confident with
everything that’s been going on with me,
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may May 4, 2015 at 9:52 am

Louise, thank you so much for your detailed story. It really made me feel a bit better.
I don’t think this could be anxiety only, for sure there is a nerves reaction to the hormones fluctuations. At least I am hoping for that for myself …
What nerve tests did you do to rule out other illness?
Thanks

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Wendy May 4, 2015 at 8:29 pm

I just turned 49. I’m a runner who lost 40 pounds and has kept it off for almost three years. Just within the last couple of months, when I run my legs feel like concrete. My muscles are tight and I feel like I’m running in slo-mo. There are some days I struggle with going out to run even though I know I need it physically and mentally. I’m starting to gain a few pounds back which scares me. One day I’m good with my diet and the next I could eat the whole house. My mood swings are horrible! The depression, anger, feelings of hopelessness, for NO FREAKIN’ REASON at all. I have a wonderful husband and beautiful 15 yr-old daughter from whom I try very hard to hide all of this. Most of the time my mood swings happen while I’m at work. When it happens I try to stay in my cubicle and not talk to anyone for fear I will either be taken to the hospital, burst into tears or rip someone’s head off! The lack of concentration is horrible. I identify with so many of you and so many of the symptoms, like the ones I’ve mentioned… and the gastro stuff. I hate feeling out of control of my life. Also, my mom had a hysterectomy at 45 so I have no idea when she would have begun perimenopause. I’m on three b.p. meds and I’m still on the pill. Sometimes I wonder if it is any of that… See, look, I’m going crazy again. :) LOL…. Thanks to all for sharing and please, keep sharing!!

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Louise May 9, 2015 at 9:42 am

Hi May,
I don’t know the actual names of the tests but I can describe what they did. They did several different tests.
– gently poked my hands, arms, feet and legs with a pin to see if I could feel it. Which I did without any problem.
– used a feather lightly over the same areas and again felt it fine.
– then they stuck little electrodes (very thin needles) under my skin, didn’t hurt, which I was surprised since I am such a physically sensitive person, hench all the darn issues I am having. Anyway, once these electrodes were in place a small electrical current was passed through them which can be quite uncomfortable but not horrible. Now if the nerves are working properly my understanding is there should be a good solid smooth contraction of the muscle. With that they use a machine that records the contraction and the electricity passing through. It was quite interesting actually. There is a graph that reflects the strength of the contraction and the smoothness of the contraction and other measurements I didn’t think to ask about. And again all was working fine.
– movement assessment. Raise arms, lower arms, raise toes, foot, legs, and lower the same.
– strength resistance type test. Try to raise hand up when someone is gently pushing down on hand. Same for feet, legs and arms.
– muscle strength. Stand and without using arms for assistance try to step up onto a chair. I nearly failed that one. My legs didn’t have much strength to hoist me up to stand on the seat of a chair. I was all wobbly, and grunting to get myself up. I didn’t have a lot of strength in those poor legs of mine. Now to clarify and not scare you, I can do that now no problem, now that my hormones are settling down and my energy is returning. But oiy, while my hormones were more outta whack my legs were so very weak. So weak that at times I could not lift myself from a sitting position without using my arms to lift me up as well. It was quite worrisome to me at that time.
– balance test. I think if you can’t feel the floor it is hard to keep your balance. i had to walk heel to toe, eyes closed. And I think a few other balance tests but I don’t remember them.
– they also adheard electrical pads, kinda like small square band aides, to my skin and checked the contraction of the muscles that way too.
All in all I passed with flying colours. No nerve damage at all.
I still have some faint tingling in my feet, legs and hands and arms but it is nothing compRed to what it used to be like.

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Chris May 9, 2015 at 3:45 pm

Am I loosing my mind?
Normal period 8/14 and then no periods.
April 16, 2015 SURPRISE!! Mostly “normal” 5 day period. STOP
May 3, 2015 SURPRISE AGAIN- sort of massive stress feelings, rapid heartbeat, like my heart is coming out of my chest, pain under right rib cage, bloating, when I palpate it may cause nausea and burping, SOB, high anxiety and red, then brown then red and brown spotting. It has been 6b days and I think it stopped as is the anxiety. Still some abdominal bloating but seems to be settling down. Will I live? I just turned 55. Is this menopause?

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Jenni brown May 11, 2015 at 9:36 am

I just came across this blog! And have most of these symptoms For weeks now.
I came to the point tht I got so worried and phoned my surgery.
But now I gave a clearer understanding what’s happening to my body.

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Mary Jane May 12, 2015 at 12:18 pm

To Shelley from April 19, a note of encouragement. For years I had some spotting mid-cycle. After two separate doctors ran a series of test (at two different times) two different gynecologists confirmed both times that it was just spotting that happens at ovulation. Most women have some spotting, but it is usually so little, it is diluted or washed out before it is seen. A few women have visible bleeding. The way to tell is if it happens a week to ten days after the last day of your last period, and consistently happens then. Also, you might notice a slight twinge or pinch on one side of your groin or other about the same time. (that would be your ovaries acting). If it is just from ovulating, a trial period on a birth control pill will usually show it as while on the pill you don’t ovulate, and the spotting will stop It is actually an indication of fertility. As for an irregular pap test, this too is very common. Sometimes that test will show cervix cells that seem abnormal, but often these cells will change back again within the six month time frame, and it is nothing to worry about. This too, is more common than we know. Hope this helps lay some of your fears to rest. Make sure you show up for your 6 month follow up appointment, and ask your dr. about the possibility of mid period bleeding being related to ovulation. A gynecologist is more likely to be able to tell you this. I am 54 and am really struggling with the anxiety and dread, too. I have always had problems with anxiety and depression, and it appears to have really ramped up at this time in my life.

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Mary Jane May 12, 2015 at 1:17 pm

Really, I want to thank God for this site. I have had three periods in the last year, after a 43 year history of having heavy periods that you could set your watch by. I realize that I was experiencing peri menopause since my mid forties any way, but there wasn’t a doctor who would confirm it. This year I found a lump on my thyroid gland, and subsequent tests have shown it to be benign, with a follow up check up and ultra sound and biopsy again in 6 months. The dr. told me that it was likely a cyst, and therefore not a real problem. They don’t operate on them unless they grow too large to be able to swallow, breathe, etc. or if they are cancerous. I learned that the single biggest group of people who have thyroid problems are middle-aged women. My thyroid tests are normal so I should be happy. Unfortunately, the whole incident has set me off on a two month battle with depression and anxiety. The most difficult are the panic attacks. I am on a medication that has a sedative effect with few side effects for me. That helped, as I was at a point where I was having panic attacks just seeing my bed. My anxiety was not only disturbing my sleep, it was actually waking me up in a rush of adrenalin. Terrible sadness, crying for no reason and gut gnawing anxiety have stalked me. The medication has helped a lot as I have been able to sleep in the evening, but I notice that the sadness is growing and the anxiety is creeping back in. I don’t know if I should see my doctor about increasing my meds, especially since I now know that so much of this is common to menopause. I have been desperate to talk to someone about this, but there hasn’t been anyone to talk to. When this started, I asked my dr. if any or all of this was related to menopause, and he brushed me away, knowing that my periods have nearly stopped and that I am 54 years old. Your site gives me hope and reassurance that I am probably ok. I have thought that I was having a break down, that I had cancer and no one knew it, that I was dying, that I will always feel this way, etc. I have not been able to trust any of my own judgements, and my decision making process is totally off kilter. I change my mind passionately, several times a day. I have always been an organized person who could make well thought out plans and stick with them. If I was wrong, I would live with it or have a back up plan. Not anymore. I have also had the headaches and dizziness (unusual for me) and wondered if I was having a precursor to a stroke or something. All of this adds to the anxiety. I also feel a deep seated restlessness. I read on this site that someone was told by a gynecologist that estrogen levels drop off to their lowest early morning. This might explain why I often feel the worst when I first wake up, but feel a bit better after I get up and move around. I have also found that I must end my love affair with coffee, which I have cut back on significantly over the last 5 years. I also cannot enjoy sweets like I once did, and also have to watch my portions of even whole grain breads, as the mood swings from the rush of sugars aren’t helping. Does anyone have any stories of how long after having a whole year of no periods, the worst of the symptoms disappear? What is on the other side? Thanks again for this forum.

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Tina May 12, 2015 at 8:48 pm

Only 31… But I’ve had problems with my period since I was 15. I have the worst night sweats ever. I have to change my clothes and sheets. It’s gross. Hot flashes, insane mood swings, cry for no reason. Bloating .. Trying to find a doctor who doesn’t tell me I’m to young to be going through this is impossible. I know my body.. Something isn’t right.. Anyone suggest some sort of relief please

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Leigh S. May 14, 2015 at 9:53 am

Is anyone having heartburn? If so, what helps?

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Wendy May 14, 2015 at 10:21 am

Leigh, I’ve been getting mild heartburn some lately myself. Drink water, especially when you first begin to feel it. If I drink about 16 ozs., when I feel it, it usually goes away.

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Leigh S. May 14, 2015 at 1:39 pm

I actually drink a lot of water, but will try when I feel it, which been practically all day everyday for the last several days. Also trying to cut out chocolate that I have been eating. Thanks!

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Heather R May 15, 2015 at 5:36 pm

Reading all you blogs is truly eye-opening. I was chocking it all up to chronic fatigue and/or fibromyalgia. But the dizziness and loss of balance and few other things just didn’t seem to fit. Everyone kept saying I was too young for all this (strange headaches, short-term memory loss, sudden loss of balance, nearly constant fatigue, and always feeling on the verge of a nervous breakdown). Now I’m rethinking myself. I haven’t actually been to a doctor yet; no insurance. But I’m feeling better about what to present when I do go. Thanks so much for being so open.

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Michelle May 16, 2015 at 10:49 am

Best site I have come across! Help please. I’m at my wits end. At the advice of a friend I’ve been keeping paper calendars to follow this craziness. I just turned 44. Mom was done with periods at 45 and grandmother at 40/41. I’m almost sure I’m here. The last couple of years I’ve been apparently skipping months now and again. Normal cycles for me have always been 7/9 days. Heavy for the first 3/5 then regular until gone from day 6/9. I have a fibroid doc doesn’t want to touch. She says it will shrivel up with menopause and go away. The night sweats are killings. Total sleep deprivation. My cycles have been shorter the last few months but this month (happy birthday to me) I’m on day 15 of very light (no pad needed) period. The anxiety is through the roof. The hot flashes so annoying. It seems like I dread going to sleep bc I know I will wake up. Spoke to my mother and she says she went through the identical process at the same time and to refuse hormones. They are totally linked to breast Cancer and I can do without.

I need your suggestions for home remedies to alleviate the symptoms and stop this long period if you have any! I have read its a drop in estrogen and imbalance. Anything will help! Thanks!

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Magnolia May 16, 2015 at 11:14 am

Hi Michelle,

I understand your concerns with not wanting to use hormones. I felt the same when I was going through perimenopause and refused them as well. However, as I white-knuckled my way through the symptoms, I arrived at the place where my periods were so heavy and full of blood clots that I could not leave my bedroom (the bathroom was a few steps away), much less consider leaving the house.

I finally came around to the place that I couldn’t take the massive blood loss, exhaustion and stress of bleeding so heavy that I couldn’t wear enough overnight pads all at once to quell it, that I turned to bioidentical progesterone.

I started using it because in my own research and study, I had learned that heavy, flooding, long periods were the result of low progesterone and estrogen dominance. Once I began to the use the progesterone the bleeding stopped cold and I quietly transitioned into actual menopause.

I regret that I didn’t use them sooner. But, like you, I was worried about cancer, and other negative health side effects. I’ve changed my views considerably since then and when women ask me how I feel about hormones, or what will help with the symptoms, I share with them what helped me.

Bioidentical progesterone was the biggest step for me in terms of regaining some measure of control over what was happening. The progesterone helped with sleep, as does estrogen. In fact, I’ve been using progesterone for years, but not estrogen. After a while I began to notice that I wasn’t sleeping at all – again. I also realized that I had not used any estrogen for quite some time and that low estrogen can and does contribute to insomnia.

So, I started using the Vivelle Dot patch again, and viola’, sleep returned.

This is probably not what you want to hear, and I’m not suggesting you SHOULD take hormones. I’m only relaying to you what my experience has been and what I’ve learned about symptoms of perimenopause and hormone imbalance.

There are lots of non-hormonal products on the market that can help, however. If you would like to try some of them, Estroven is an excellent (in my opinion) product which addresses many of the symptoms of perimenopause. It is not a perfect product, and is certainly not a “cure-all” by any stretch. But, it might be something you could try to address some of your issues.

Estroven has lots of different formulas, so you can simply peruse each one and see which helps and which doesn’t.

And of course, changing your diet and exercising (I know it sounds like a cliche’ we hear it so much) will also help manage some of the symptoms as well. A good 30 minute walk per day can help relieve stress and anxiety, and improve sleep. But, I’m sure you know this. We just sometimes need to be reminded.

There is a book by Dr. C.W. Randolph which I think is excellent and which sells like hot cakes here at The Perimenopause Blog. It is called “From Belly Fat to Belly Flat” Dr. Randolph explains in easy to read text what causes hormone imbalance and what you can do with your diet to help balance your hormones. It’s cheap, and the recipes in the book are EASY to make. Nothing too esoteric and exotic.

I hope this helps. I know it’s maddening trying to get a handle on the symptoms. You just have to attack it from many different angles and hang in there.

Magnolia

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Louise May 17, 2015 at 4:23 am

Ladies,…. Anxiety, anxiety, anxiety. Where do I begin? Yes, you feel like you are going crazy or have actually arrived at crazy. And when it is really bad, you can’t control it. And when it is critically bad you don’t realize just how crazy it is making you act and the worry and concern you see on the faces of loved ones only scares you even more. The doom and gloom thoughts…the chronic “what if” game anxiety plays with you. Its like a demon sitting on your shoulder constantly harrasing you. “What if that sore toe gets worse and get gangrene.” “What if that head ache is a tumour and the doctors can’t find it?” “What if this fear never goes away? What if this horror and hell is for the rest of my life? What if…”
Oh boy can I relate to what you all are talking about. Anxiety robs you of any coping skills you have, of self esteem, reasoning, emotional stability. It leaves you emotionally and to a certain degree mentally feeling raw and naked. It leaves you feeling broken and unsure.
Ladies, there is light at the end of this roller coaster ride through hormone hell. The first couple of years can be something out of a Freddy Kruger nightmare. Just when to he anxiety dissipates abit it comes crashing back. And when you are in the midst of it, it feels like forever and that it will never end. But it does. I have many women who have gone before me and it ended for them. Do they have any anxiety? Yes of course, just like normal humans do, just like they normally had before all the hormonal changes. Without them, I think I would have jumped in the river a long time ago. As for me, I started perimenopause 15 years ago, 11 of those years were very easy. I noticed changes in my cycles, a few sleepless nights, very slowly increasing brain fog, the odd hot flash, increasing miscle tension. But these did not come every month, however as I got closer to the final few years where the estrogen really starts getting whacked out, the symptoms were coming more and more frequent, stronger and stronger….kinda like labour pains. So, I am very near the end…God I sure hope so. I am just finishing my fourth year of this hell and I looking back over my notes I see a trending of the bad episodes being shorter now and the stable episodes being longer. Yup I am scared I will have to slog through another round of extreme anxiety and depression. It’s no fun at all. Even tonight I can feel some anxiety creeping in and my clue is my mind starts up with the “what if” game. Right now I am struggling with acid reflux and wondering if it will always be this bad or will it settle down after perimenopause. Guess I have only two choices…freak out and panic which only makes the reflux worse and then of course the panic gets worse and they just feed off of each other or try to stay calm, do what I can to ease the discomfort, and wait and hope and pray.
I read perimenopause described like this which I thought was pretty accurate.
“.. sea men who go down to the sea and travel over it in ships, to do business in great waters… A stormy wind raises up which lifts up the waves of the sea. Those on board mount up to the heavens on the top of the highest waves and then they go down again to the deeps as they race down the waves to it lowest points; these confident experienced seasoned sea men…their courage melts away because of their plight. They reel to and fro and stagger like a drunken man and are at their wits end and all their knowledge has come to nothing. … But then the storm is hushed to a calm and gentle whisper, so that the waves of the sea are still. And the men are glad for the quiet and enter their desired haven”

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Meghan May 18, 2015 at 2:06 pm

I am 51 years old now. My life turned upside down about 2.5 years ago when I was going through perimenopause. I have weirdest symptoms..like tingling, pulling in the toes, crawling in the body, shocking sensation, burning, some weird sensation in the body, hair pulling sensation, bee stinging feeling. It was hell. I could not work. Now my body is calming down. I am in menopause now. I finally feel there is light at the end of the tunnel. Has anyone gone or going through similar symptoms?

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CrazyAuntie May 25, 2015 at 5:09 pm

Hi Shannon,
We are all here with you, cheering you on!!
Love and hugs!

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Louise May 21, 2015 at 7:06 pm

I envy you..2.5 years only and then your body started calming down. I am 51 as well and my life is still upside down. I am still going through perimenopause and can’t work nor can I travel at all. I am very thin, exhausted, feel almost as if I have been poisoned, and well feel pretty beat up. Sometimes I feel so battered by this I feel somewhat shell shocked. I keep waiting with bated breath…is this my last period? Sigh, nope. Hope for next month to start the final year. Lordy, 4 years and still struggling. I have to admit though, the problems are not as bad but still pretty nasty. when one thing is almost gone then something new and horrible shows up which sends me into a spiral of chronic depression and panic. If this is meant to teach me to live one hour at a time then job accomplished! I don’t think I could make it without the support of my ever so kind and patient husband, kids and friends who all hug me, and encourage me to keep going and reassure me that it will end and I will feel better…I will be so happy when the days come that I truely believe them without any doubts. I wonder what kind of person I will be on the other side of this. Will I be so emotionally scarred that I am a broken shell of who I used to be or will I be more compassionate and patient and kind? Will I be afraid of life or will I embrace it? I used to think I was such a strong person…perimenopause blew that right out of the water. I would say for me, this experience has been a profoundly humbling one. Not just by me experienceing the hormonal storm which brought me to my knees but also the people around me. They have shown me what real love and compassion looks like and feels like to receive. It is my hope and prayer that I am able to emulate that depth of caring toward others when I am through this. But for right now it is all I can do to survive another day. Hmmmm guess I’m an in the “depressive” stage again…oh yay. I know I put my box of tissue around here somewhere. *sniffle*

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shreya May 22, 2015 at 5:33 pm

Hello.
I’m 48 years old and I wanted to know if what I’m feeling is okay. My cycle has been changed drastically and I am getting my period since the last two months without any break. Please help me and let me know if this is a sign of menopause? I would really be thankful.

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Louise May 24, 2015 at 1:52 am

Hi Shreya,
You are certainly in the age range for perimenopause. I think you are saying you have had a period for two straight months without a break. Personally I wouldn’t want you becoming anemic and exhausted. I recommend you see your doctor to find out what is causing the excessive bleeding. Most likely it is your hormones but i don’t want to assume. Your doctor might want to do some tests like a uterine ultrasound or recommend you go on hormones such as the BC pill for a month to help stabilize you and get the bleeding under control.

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Louise May 24, 2015 at 2:08 am

Hi Magnolia,
Thank you thank you so very much for your response to Kelly. No one can truely understand hormonal imbalance and the effects it has on a person unless they go through it. Back in the 70’s my mother was put into the mental hospital because of her severe anxiety and moods swings not to mention all the other symptoms. Her doctor back then just didn’t understand she was in perimenopause. He, like a lot of doctors, only looked for the “common” signs such as hot flashes. In fact the guy actually asked her if she had any enemies, because he thought someone was trying to poison her. Sheesh! She was having every rare perimenopause symptom except the common ones. Well, while she was in there they figured it out, took her off the psychotropic drugs and put her on HRT. Her turn around was swift and dramatic. In fact she felt better than she had in many years.
So thank you again.

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Louise May 24, 2015 at 2:20 am

Actually, I wouldn’t use the word “rare” perimenopause symptoms…rather “less common” perimenopause symptoms. I am finding more and more women seem to be experiencing the less common ones more and more. I sometimes wonder if our environments have anything to do with it since we are exposed to petroleum products, pesticides and preservatives every day. Hmmm a lot of “P” words to go with perimenopause.. :o)

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Magnolia May 17, 2015 at 1:25 pm

Kelly,

I understand what you’re trying to say when you compare your wife’s mood swings to manic swings. However, can I please suggest that you back away from clinical mental diagnostic tools to describe women in perimenopause?

We are not mentally ill. Perimenopause is not a mental condition. Yes, it does cause mood swings and affect changes in our behavior. But, we are NOT mentally ill or suffering from psychosis in any form.

I say that because women are CONSTANTLY being treated as if they are mentally ill when all they are suffering from is the effects of hormone imbalance. Their body systems are out of balance. Not their mind. And for you to appeal to us to “take it easy on our husbands” tells me that you think we have some capacity to control it or something.

We can’t. I’m sorry to tell you that. But, we simply can’t. Maybe YOU should take it easy on your wife and not compare her to clinically diagnosed mental patients?

I do understand you want to help. And I respect that you are here seeking information so you CAN help her. But, please sir, lose the language of the DSM if you really want to help your wife.

Magnolia

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