35 Symptoms of Perimenopause

by Magnolia on September 5, 2014

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When I was in the midst of the worst of my perimenopause symptoms, I had one over-riding thought:

“I’m going crazy”

Yes, I had hot flashes, night sweats, irregular periods and those gawdawful mood-swings. But without question, the underlying and most compelling emotion was that I was certain I was finally going nuts. In fact, it was my anxiety and emotional turmoil that drove me to begin blogging about perimenopause in the first place.

Like most women, I needed to talk through my anxiety and emotional angst so that I could sort through the feelings and make some sense out of what was happening to me. Perhaps that is what has brought you here as well. Maybe you’re feeling crazy too, vulnerable, not yourself, and hanging on by a very thin thread. So, before I go any further, let me say very plainly – I understand, and you are not going crazy.

It’s difficult to explain to others who have not been through it, what perimenopause feels like. It’s especially difficult to explain to our husbands who can’t begin to understand or even remotely connect to the female experience. Not only is this frustrating but it can add to the feelings of isolation and vulnerability.

The symptoms and signs of perimenopause are long and varied. You may have many or a few. There is no typical perimenopausal experience, though most women seem to have hot flashes, night sweats, irregular periods and mood-swings. In fact, these four symptoms are usually what signals to women that they are in perimenopause – which, by the way are similar to Yaz birth control side effects, which you can learn about at DrugNews.

As of right now, most experts, health care providers and those devoted to understanding and helping women in perimenopause agree there are at least 35 symptoms of perimenopause. It’s not necessarily a comprehensive list but it’s certainly a good starting point.

If you have any of these symptoms and feel you may be in perimenopause see a physician or health care provider right away. The good news is we have plenty of options. Just do something. There is no reason to suffer with perimenopause if we don’t have to.

35 Symptoms of Perimenopause

  • Hot flashes, flushes, night sweats and/or cold flashes, clammy feeling
  • Irregular heart beat
  • Irritability
  • Mood swings, sudden tears
  • Trouble sleeping through the night (with or without night sweats)
  • Irregular periods; shorter, lighter periods; heavier periods, flooding; phantom periods, shorter cycles, longer cycles
  • Loss of libido
  • Dry vagina
  • Crashing fatigue
  • Anxiety, feeling ill at ease
  • Feelings of dread, apprehension, doom
  • Difficulty concentrating, disorientation, mental confusion
  • Disturbing memory lapses
  • Incontinence, especially upon sneezing, laughing; urge incontinence
  • Itchy, crawly skin
  • Aching, sore joints, muscles and tendons
  • Increased tension in muscles
  • Breast tenderness
  • Headache change: increase or decrease
  • Gastrointestinal distress, indigestion, flatulence, gas pain, nausea
  • Sudden bouts of bloat
  • Depression
  • Exacerbation of existing conditions
  • Increase in allergies
  • Weight gain
  • Hair loss or thinning, head, pubic, or whole body; increase in facial hair
  • Dizziness, vertigo, light-headedness, episodes of loss of balance
  • Changes in body odor
  • Electric shock sensation under the skin and in the head
  • Tingling in the extremities
  • Gum problems, increased bleeding
  • Burning tongue, burning roof of mouth, bad taste in mouth, change in breath odor
  • Osteoporosis (after several years)
  • Changes in fingernails: softer, crack or break easier
  • Tinnitus: ringing in ears, bells, ‘whooshing,’ buzzing etc.
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Kimberly August 11, 2015 at 10:44 pm

I too, thought I was going crazy. There is one symptom I experience that I haven’t read above from anyone. Has anybody experienced their blood FLOWING throughout their body?


Carla August 31, 2015 at 5:00 am

Kimberley, I have that too. Especially when I am sitting still – it is as if I can feel my blood pulsating without laying a finger on my wrist. My symptoms have been coming over quite a number of years. Hot flashes any time of day, then hair loss, then irregular heartbeats, dizziness as if the room is spinning. Tingling extremeties. Really over more than two years now. Lately I am nauseous. Not all of the symptoms at the same time though. At least now I know what’s the reason. My periods are also irregular now. Our GP had no clue and tried to convince me I was stressed and anxious and prescribed some pills that are sought on the black market! And they have addictive qualities! I know myself and knew this was nonsense. Finally I went to a homeopath and she is convinced the reason is my fluctuating hormones and I am using a natural product now. I am in a better place. Hang in there ladies and DO not plainly believe a dr if he/she tries to make you believe you are not coping w life and in need of anxiety meds!!


Angelica September 22, 2015 at 12:15 pm

Carla, What type of natural product are you on that is helping you? Thank you!


Kimberly August 13, 2015 at 12:29 am

Has anybody experienced blood FLOWING THROUGHOUT their body from head to toe??? There has to be somebody out there that had or having this now. It is not cool or funny. You literally feel all blood movement troughout the entire skin, Even your toes! It is like a super rush… the only way I can explain it. VERY WEIRD.. ANY feedback would be greatly apprciated! I am grateful I found this site. I too, thought I was going crazy as my sibling and mother did NOT go through menopause. ‘Thus, meaning, there is no support from the family or most friends. Hey, “this too shall pass”. Just another day in paradise, right?

Thank you ladies for all your stories and tales. They have have helped me tremendously! God Bless all whom have thought they were crazy….. NOPE, answer is = we are women!!! 😛


Kelly August 17, 2015 at 2:32 pm

I’m not sure if this is the same feeling, but I”ve experienced on many occasions, feeling my blood pulse throughout my head… almost like I can hear my heartbeat and the pushing of blood from my hear to my body. It is short-lived (about 5-10 heartbeats), but still very odd!!


jennifer August 14, 2015 at 1:00 pm

I’m so happy I found this blog. It feels like a life saver to me. When I start having the anxiety/panic attacks & thinking I’m dying I come here & read the comments & somehow manage to calm myself down. So thank you to everyone that has posted!!

I will be 44 in a couple of months & I’ve always been a healthy, active person (I don’t smoke, rarely drink, not overweight)& I am very rarely sick but last year I literally thought I was dying. It started off gradually after I thought about.. had a hot flash one morning in the bathroom that made me nauseous. Thought I was coming down with something. Then a few weeks later had a racing heart while I was sitting at my bench working (for no reason at all).. felt like an anxiety attack but I wasn’t anxious about anything. A couple of weeks later started feeling like my hands & feet were constantly going to sleep. Then another few weeks went by & I woke up from a nap with pains & an awful anxiety attack that just would not go away. Went to the doctor (and I’m one of those people that only goes to the doctor when they think they are dying) & they did every blood test under the sun. All came back fine – hormones, thyroid, kidney, etc. She sent me to a cardiologist & he told me everything seemed fine & I was very low risk for heart disease but he wanted me to do a stress test “just to be sure”.. I never did it b/c my part of the bill was $2,000 & that was enough to stress me out right there! But I have a heaviness feeling in my chest now.. it kind of feels like if I would burp I would feel better. I’m having digestive issues now that I never had before.. bloating, constantly burping & feeling gassy (and it seems worse in the mornings). I get so tired some days that I can hardly do anything.. so the days I do feel fairly decent I work like crazy to get caught up. I’m just so tired of feeling like crap most of the time & it’s comforting to know that I’m not alone (not that I want any of you to feel bad!).


Linda August 20, 2015 at 11:35 am

Hi Jennifer
I’m 55 and have started on this journey also ugh! Burping all the time yes! Bloating! Gassy! My digestion feels sluggish everyday. That feeling in your chest like you need to burp at times to relieve it. Feeling like there is something wrong with you all the time yep! Hands and feet feeling asleep yippers! I started on B vitamins and have felt better mentally the other stuff still there, Oh Well……just praying through it;-) your right the old saying misery loves company is soooo true lol. So very glad for this blog!!!! Have a blessed day!


jennifer August 27, 2015 at 7:51 am

Hi Linda!
I’m totally with you.. ugghh! I started taking a super B complex vitamin along w/ a multivitamin as well & I think it has helped somewhat as some of symptoms are less severe. I’m not sure if it’s the vitamins or the fact that I think I have a handle on what it is now (the scary part was not knowing)! I thought “what if I have cancer? What if I have heart disease?” & that just fueled the anxiety even more. Very thankful for all the folks here!
Hope you have a blessed day too!
jenn :)


Valerie August 30, 2015 at 5:38 pm

Thank you omg I thought I was going crazy too. I too had a panic attack out of no where and have been fighting anxiety along with night sweats and mood swings out of control. I’m 45 had all my blood work and even a brain scan for my dizziness. They say everything looks fine but it has to be my hormones and peri menopause. I’m glad I’m not alone because I thought it was just going to be some hot flashes, which I was looking forward to because I’m always cold and some mood swings. No one told me about these other symptoms ugh just need to get through these next few years!! 😢


Hayley Thompson September 13, 2015 at 10:07 am

Wow so glad to hear everyone’s replies as I am beginning to think there is something seriously wrong with me , came home From
A lovely 2 week restful holiday , to feel like crap , tired , headaches then migraines light headedness , feeling sick . I’m never ill but even went to doctors , blood test ok blood pressure ok even had my eyes tested . Think I will try vitamin B as you all recommend .
Hayley 😀


Nancy August 31, 2015 at 11:36 pm

I have also had very similar symptoms as you Jennifer. About two years ago I also thought something was seriously wrong with me. I woke with a strange feeling of my fingers and forearms numb and seemed to progress through the day becoming like a strange skin-moving feeling. It literally felt like my skin was crawling. I also woke up on several nights with severe anxiety also relating to this skin crawing and numbness feeling. I was terrified. This lasted for a couple of months on and off. Saw my doctor, who then sent me to a neurologist, who did several tests all of which were normal. It’s been a couple of years now, those symptoms and pretty uncommon but I now have varying symptoms of gastric issues, mostly nausea. Last night I woke up with a strong feeling that I was going to throw up. This comes and goes weeks on end. Yes, it is nice to know that there are other women who have the same strange, seemingly unexplainable symptoms. Hopefully there is an end in sight.


Shed September 10, 2015 at 8:11 pm

Have you found something to help you with the nausea? I’m having the same problem but mainly in the mornings. Thank you


CrazyAuntie September 22, 2015 at 7:58 pm

I have found that Dramamine (an over the counter drug for motion sickness) helps me with the nausea and vertigo-feeling.

Hope it helps for you also!


Shed September 28, 2015 at 7:48 pm



Danielle September 16, 2015 at 9:04 pm

I understand totally what you’re going through. I’m 43 and have felt like I’ve been having issues with Perimenopause for the last few years but every blood test says no I’m not, but lately in the last few month I’ve been having major anxiety, waking up after an hour of sleeping at nite with a weird sensation of anxiety and wet from sweat. These feelings make me feel like I’m going crazy and it always seems to be the last 10 days before I get my period as well. It’s crazy and I’ve felt very alone I’m so glad to have found this blog. Does anyone know of a doctor in south Florida who specializes in Perimenopause? I really want someone whose going to say you’re not crazy, this is what you should do.


Shed September 28, 2015 at 7:57 pm

Thank you. I have been taking one a day for menopause and seems to help with the sweaty hands and feet. Still having heart palpitations and the anxious feelings along with the nausea. I can handle the palpitations but I can’t handle the nausea very well. So glad I found this blog. It’s nice to know I’m not alone and I’m not crazy although my doctor seem to make me feel that way.


Shed September 28, 2015 at 8:03 pm

Also, I made an appointment to see an Endocrinologist today and to my surprise they had an opening however even after getting my medical records they refused to see me because I didn’t have a referral from my doctor to them. I was so angry and disappointed all I could do was cry. I am so tired of doctors keeping their noses in textbooks and not doing Real research and trying to find help for us. On top of that, the medicine my doctor didn’t recommend giving me is an anti-anxiety tablet that helps with hot flashes but the dorm side effects are worse than the hot flashes!


Michelle August 21, 2015 at 9:14 am

I am so thankful to have found this site as well. First for me, I don’t have a thyroid. Lost it 12 years ago to RAI due to graves post pregnancy. So that alone has been a balancing act. I lost 5 pregnancies (further along and 1 ectopic) and have since felt a major shift in my health. I am at risk for heart palps to begin with due to no thyroid, but at 43 to be 44, am realizing all of the things I have been going through must be peri. Up until a year ago I always, even with thyroid issues, had a 28 day cycle. never any pain discomfort or breast tenderness. Well, that all took a major swing… I get palps, hot flashes at times, anxiety, bloat, breast tenderness around when I ovulate (or think i’m ovulating ), migraines (never had in my life), the itchy skin, mood swings… you name it … The worst for me are the heart palps. I have had the ekg, monitor and stress and nothing…. (thank God) but when you get them, they are frightening. Yes, I too have had the many trips to the ER fearing the worst when they hit. So between my lack of thyroid and only being on synthroid, to now perimenopause.. it’s going to be one heck of a ride. The one thing I have been blessed with is not having any issues with my weight. I work out, eat well, and stay hydrated. Just some things I am aware I cannot control… but off to another heart doc apt to be certain once again.
Thank you for allowing me to share and not judging me. I know putting this much info out there can have people turn a nose up… but I am grateful for you all and knowing that I am not alone.


I am wishing each of you the best… knowing we have this journey ahead, I so appreciate


Shelley August 22, 2015 at 9:26 am

I started getting the heart palpitations a few years ago, had all the tests and nothing is wrong. I was so nervous about it I had diarrhea and heartburn. The doctor sent me home with no answer on the heart palps and 3 prescriptions to take, one for irritable bowel, one for heartburn and an anti-depressant! I threw them in the garbage and did my own homework, finding that heart palpitations are common in peri-menopause. Some things I have tried with success are peppermint tea and motherwort tincture. I have just begun using a homeopathic remedy called ammonium carbonicum 200c that was recommended in an article by homeopath Joette Calabrese. (http://joettecalabrese.com/blog/saving-menopausal-woman-homeopathy/) which is supposed to be a permanent solution to the problem. I am excited to see if it will do the trick for me.


dawn mills August 23, 2015 at 3:46 pm

This is a help to me. I’m 42 and 2 months ago I started feeling like my heart racing or skipping beats. Every time I go to the Dr they find nothing which I am glad. But put it with all the other symptoms on here and it’s all me. I just thought it was stress.


Shed September 28, 2015 at 7:54 pm

Did it help?


Tami August 26, 2015 at 1:03 am

I just experienced the weight gain, 20 lbs in 1 month. Like you, I’m highly active and eat well. Now I’m tweeting my diet and still exercising but no relief. I’m 49. I’m hoping it will come just like it came on. Now I seem to be nesting just like the days before I had my daughter. I’ve experienced almost all 35 symptoms. I also have random feelings of the tip of my nose feeling on fire and had a metallic feeling.


dawn mills August 23, 2015 at 3:23 pm

Omg thank you for this article. I’m to my breaking point. I already have panic disorder and thought that stress wads sending me over the edge. I’m 42 and have 3 teenage daughter’s. They look at me and say I’m bipolar. I actually started to believe them but then thought I’d have to actually be happy at some point before swinging to the mean crazy side. As I read this I see that I’m not crazy. Guess I’m making a Dr appt tomorrow and bringing this article with me. Thank you.


Cheryl August 27, 2015 at 4:31 pm

Fits what I’m going through to a ‘t’. But my Dr. Took me off estrogen because she was worrying over cancer. I think I just want my estrogens back, thanks. :-)


Michele August 28, 2015 at 9:15 am

Since last October I have been nothing but ill..

I was in bed six weeks solid with fatigue, sweating, headaches, dizzy head, loss of speech, aches and pains, heart palpitations, hyperventilation etc etc etc. I have never been so ill in my life. No one could tell me what was wrong and on top of that I have been diagnosed with under active thyroid, high blood pressure and now high cholesterol.
Every couple of weeks I get overwhelming fatigue with nausea and a foggy head.. Does anyone else get this??

I also have had really bad depression since last October and never go out unless i have to. My whole life has went from being very active and going to the gym, eating healthy etc etc. To being confined to the house and constant health problems.

I am never away from the doctors and have just been put on HRT.. has anyone else had this amount of problems??


Susane September 7, 2015 at 7:28 pm

Hi, I have fatigue often and what I call “shaky legs”. M y legs feel like they won’t hold me up and feel weak. I also get what I call wonky head. It feels like I am off balance while walking or standing. Yes, the gastrointestinal symptoms as well. Today has been a bad day as I am very tired and just not feeling well. I have not experienced weight gain thank goodness but I have had just about every other symptom on the list. Like you I had an anxiety disorder before all this started. I have noticed that it is really bad when my period is due as well as the dizzy feeling and stomach upset. I also have severe allergies that have worsened since this began and are also worse around my period. Al we can do is tell ourselves that this to shall pass. I hope I have alleviated some of your anxiety just knowing that you are definitely not going through this alone.


Angelica September 22, 2015 at 12:31 pm

Can I ask you what type of gastrointestinal symptoms you have with this? I have the same symptoms as you but also have loose stools in the mornings. I go anywhere from 3-5 times from 10 mins to 1 hr a part and am trying to figure out if this is a perimenopausal symptom or not, since gastroenterologist can’t find anything wrong.
Thank you!


Aleksandre September 29, 2015 at 1:44 pm

I like the way you described “wonky” head because that’s exactly the way my head feels. Did these feelings just come one day out of the blue? I was feeling fine Thursday and woke up Friday feeling weird????


Linda August 29, 2015 at 10:07 pm

Hi Ladies,
Just came from the emergency room ugh! I have been having so much pain in my gut on the right side that feels like a big gas pocket in the middle and hurts around the back. It also hurts on the left side a little also. I feared the worse, sonogram and cat scan did not show anything. Praise God! The doctor said it could be gastritis. He said go see primary doctor and a gastro doctor to have tube put down my throat. Well….with no insurance this is going to be enough stress to keep my stomach hurting:-( praying it’s all good news!!
Blessings to you all :-)


Treena August 31, 2015 at 5:03 am

Hi Linda

I guess the emergency Dr checked this but it could be Gall Stones, I had similar symptoms before I had mine removed, still get them now but not as bad, it could also be Perimenopause of course


Linda August 31, 2015 at 9:48 pm

Hi Treena,
They did a cat scan and did not find anything. They want me to follow up with a gastro doctor to check colon and stomach ugh! Oh the burping and bloating is awful.
Many Blessings


Heather September 19, 2015 at 5:51 pm

A ct scan will not always show gallstones and doesn’t show how your gallbladder is functioning at all. You need to have a hida scan to show gallbladder function. I will say if you can keep your gallbladder and heal it that is best, because more times than not having it removed starts even more issues. I have been very sick since mine was removed and it’s horrible, on top of these other symptoms I’m existing, not truly living.


Lisa September 2, 2015 at 11:04 am

Hi everyone,

I am 45 and have been dealing with many of the symptoms for the last 3 years. Now I have started to have periods that do not want to stop. They are not heavy but they just seem to keep going. There is a lot of information about heaving bleeding but I haven’t seen much about what I am experiencing. I feel like it is hormonal but tend to worry none the less. Any thoughts or comments would be appreciated.


Shed September 7, 2015 at 1:56 pm

I experience hot sweaty hands and feet, fast heart rate and nausea in the mornings. If I don’t drink any coffee, water or eat anything I’m usually better. Is anyone else having this and if so what are you doing to help you with this. I’m currently taking a multivitamin, one a day for menopause, that seems to be helping I’m starting week number two but I’m still having issues in the mornings. I really don’t want to give up my coffee but I want to feel better. Any advice? Thanks.


Terri September 21, 2015 at 9:32 pm

Hi Shed,
Just wanted you to know, that I too have been experiencing a fast heart rate mostly in the morning since July…a week after I turned 41!!
I noticed changes since I turned 40 last year and it became even worse this year. I read here that there are others that are taking a multi-vitamin and vitamin B also, so I believe I will try that.
I had some blood work completed a couple of weeks ago and will get the results Thursday to see if I’m in peri-menopause. Even if the test come back that I’m fine, I believe I’m there.


Jessica September 7, 2015 at 10:30 pm

Hi, I am only 30 and I think I may be in Peri menopause! I have been having heart palps, chronic diarrhea, breast tenderness, bloat, gas, mood swings, anxiety, and night sweats sometimes. And it seems that my PMS before my periods is worse. I don’t get what’s going on? This is embarrassing, especially since I’m in class a lot. What do you all think? Thanks.


Angelica September 22, 2015 at 12:35 pm

Is the diarrhea in the mornings or is it different time of day? Thank you.


Maybel September 10, 2015 at 12:23 pm

I am 42 with most of these symptoms I went to the endocrinologist and she cannot find anything. She recommended a GYN. Help im in Broward county florida what type of doctor could possibly help me and not make me feel as if I were insane. I have days before my period that I have no energy at all to get out of bed and my migraines will not let me open my eyes. Any recommendations.


Linda September 11, 2015 at 10:25 am

Hi Maybel,
I am also so very tired. I want to go take a nap right now. Have no appetite so not wanting to eat makes you nauseated so it’s unending ugh! headache 3 am this morning , never feel like doing anything anymore ugh! If you find a good doctor let me know. The men doctor I go to look at me like I have four heads. Can’t imagine what they write on my chart lol:) im in Ocala Florida.
Good luck


Carol September 13, 2015 at 12:23 am

Am I going mad just lately I have been having like burning sensation in my chest and rises either below or up my neck I have hot sweats in my hands and feet go dry mouthed then I go hot and cold then I start trembling I’m 47 pls help me


cal September 13, 2015 at 7:43 am

Hi I’ve been having really bad hot flushes for nearly 2 years but worsening now 9 within 3 hours. I feel very nauseous as if pregnant too. Have done tests and negative. I feel very distant and find it hard to concentrate and besides all this I’m so tired….don’t feel like doing anything. I read this post went through the list and thought jeez all those symptoms apart from about 6 are what I’m getting. Thank goodness sake I read it as was thinking I was seriously ill. This menopause lark isn’t much fun


mary September 13, 2015 at 6:05 pm

well ladies 51 and in the throws of perimenopause. Hve the symtons aching joints hotflushes night sweats ringing inears the wjhole lot some granted eased off but the aching is tterrible and sleepless nights feel like going to bed somtimes and sleeping for month lol phanton peroids cramps not peroid in 3 months no sex drive my poor husband mood swings and crying over stupid things . but i must hold on to light at end of tunnel things must get better wont they please tell me they do


DElise September 14, 2015 at 9:56 am

I am 46 and think I started around last October, 2014? It may have been earlier though as I had really bad night sweats back in 2012. The last 3 months in particular have been bad. I had a very stressful job that I hated (and have since left, returned back to a lesser paying job that is 5 minutes from home and doesn’t stress me out and allows me autonomy and freedom to do things for my middle school aged child). Definitely have/had kidney stones. But I was also getting ridiculous dizzy spells. Back in May I had them so bad I had to leave work, don’t even know how I drove the hour home. They were bad for a couple of months but like last month I had a normal period and I didn’t have the dizziness, fatigue, etc that I was having. I’m at mid-month now and sure enough Saturday night while I was driving I turned my head a certain way and when I turned it back BAM!!!!! The “shift” happened. Mine isn’t a spinning etc feeling.. it’s like the world just changed positions while I’m still standing still. I’ve learned that that is what it is and I try to biofeedback control it which does help. I’m TERRIFIED to let anyone else drive because I’m afraid I’ve go fully motion sick.

I have extreme fatigue.. brain fog. Very VERY sore right hip frequently, lower back pain on the right as well (which could also have been the stones but the pain has come back since I passed the larger stone (only 4mm) and the remaining are 3mm or less.

Definite mood swings. I feel emotionless oftentimes? No interest in doing really anything. Unmotivated.

The latest thing is cystitis or something like it? I have a constant urge to pee, pressure etc.. but often I can barely go a few drops. It’s HIGHLYYYYYYYYYYYY annoying and frustrating and I haven’t really seen that mentioned either in the list or in the comments. The urination thing is totally ridiculous and exhausting. Supposedly no infection and I’ve had more x-rays, ct scans, urinary analyses and every other g-darn thing in the last 3 months. It actually got worse AFTER passing the stone.

Oh, definite anxiety.. I’m already a nervous/anxious person, just my nature but it was never life-interfering. Just how I was. Now it can be all-consuming.

I am thankful that my boyfriend, who we had many many struggles over the past 4 years has finally settled in to being super boyfriend. He’s totally on board and supportive. I have NO sex drive now (I went through a 3 year phase with him where I had mega libido which again leads me to believe that it’s possible I actually started the process back in 2012 when I had the night sweats).

I am not B-12 deficient but am Vitamin D deficient. Have those mega D-2 pills to take but I had held off because of trying to pass the kidney stone and awaiting ESWL for that (which when I got there, first thing they do is x-ray you, so after I’m there 3 1/2 hours waiting the uro comes in and sends me for *yet another* CT scan which has him coming in and saying “well, we can’t really see it and there’s less than a 50/50 shot we can break it up where it may be but let’s give it a shot!”.. Ummm.. noooooo.. You want to send 3,000 shockwaves through my L4 vertebrae and you can’t even tell if you’re getting to the stone? Think not.. so I had to convince him to bring me in to the OR, AWAKE… do the xray thingie with the shockwave machine and if it couldn’t be seen, I was getting off the table and going the heck home! Which is exactly what happened and I passed the stone 2 weeks later.. after he insisted a) it hadn’t moved, I was crazy and b) It would never pass… sighhh). Anyway, was afraid the D-2 would make the stone worse so I didn’t take it yet. I’m kinda resistant to anything taken because I’ve also become ridiculously sensitive to medications? Like I took Bactrim, which I’ve taken before, for the UTI I did get from the stone.. woahhhhhh, what a bad reaction. Totally amplified the vertigo etc. Barely left bed for 3 weeks.

Anyway, totally dreading this process. I have seen period changes. I have months where it arrives sooner. I have months where it trickles like nothing for several days then I’m changing tampons every hour or less for a day or so.. As soon as it’s heavy like that it’s also clotting. BADDDDD cramps, lower back and abdomen. Never had that before in my life either.

All female relatives (not that there’s many of them), had hysterectomies in their 50’s.. not sure any had pre-menopause stuff and if they did they never discussed it. None fully transitioned naturally. I also started much later than anyone. I didn’t get my first period until 17.. got pregnant first time having sex at 17 1/2. When my periods started they were short cycles.. 21 days. which I get a lot of now. So I wonder if I’m going back to that old cycle as I end the period process? But I was NEVER a heavy bleeder, except when I had an IUD and with that I never stopped bleeding and I think it caused scarring that, when I had my 2nd child at 35, caused me to have placenta previa. Other than the previa issue with my 2nd pregnancy (which was a 6 week hospital stay, 3 blood transfusions and still a 3 month premature baby) I never had gyno issues. Oh, I was on the IUD because I can’t take birth control pills. They make me suicidal. Can’t deal with the hormones apparently which I would think LOSING hormones my body would be happy???? Tubes tied at 35 and I am a smoker but like 3 ciggy’s a day.. not heavy at all but I’ve read smoking and sterilization both can lead to earlier peri-menopause?

So that’s my story, sorry so long. Soooo glad to have found this site!!!!! Makes me feel slightly less crazy!


Nadine September 17, 2015 at 5:44 pm

Wow the list of symptoms is crazy!!! I’ve seen two doctors recently. I thought I was going through pre menopause back when I was 27. Now 31. Of course my doctors said back then that there’s no such thing. Wow. So I left it alone. Out of nowhere I gained weight. My hands and feet started getting number. Came and went but I’ve always had irregular periods and almost everything. On this list. The doctors don’t see to be able to tell me anything except they think my tingling is from MS because small lesions were found on my brain. They have been the same size for two years now and my symptoms have never changes and nothing has gotten worse. So I don’t for a second believe that I have MS. Definitely a pre mature diagnosis which I hate because the worse thing a doctor can do is diagnose you too early cause they are just lazy. But anyway. It feels good to read this list. Helps me understand that I’m not crazy!


Leigh S. September 25, 2015 at 6:40 pm

Anyone dealing with groin pain?


Daria September 27, 2015 at 10:20 am

I have been experiencing so many of these symptoms over the past year. My periods are very irregular now and I have constant dizziness and often times nausea as well. Difficulty sleeping and concentrating too. My doctors say it is not related to perimenopause but I notice such differences in my cycle that I feel like it has to be the start. I am almost 42 years old. My symptoms are much worse during the time of my period. Does anyone else find worse symptoms during their cycle? Also does anyone else experience vertigo which is pretty bad at times? It’s just all so frustrating.


Elaine Corbett September 27, 2015 at 5:50 pm

Im 42 i thought i had cancer or something. Thank you all x


Melanie September 28, 2015 at 3:15 am

Hello, so here I am at 2am wide awake with anxiety, hot flashes, and it hey skin.
I’m a healthy 30 year old mother of two. I’m in great shape, non smoker, and workout in the gym weekly. For the past year I’ve been having horrible hot flashes that are driving me insane. Also itchy skin, trouble sleeping, dizzy, heavy cycles, bad pms, and a host of other symptoms. I thought i had a brain rumor last year due to the headaches and dizzy ness. Tests confirmed that was not the case thank goodness.I know my body and I know this is what I’m expieriening. I’ll be 31 on October 31 and even though this is more common in women 40-60, I’m one of the unlucky ones I guess. I feel alone in this. My husband tries to be supportive but I still feel lonely. The symptoms are ruining my quility of life. A week before my cycle I’m a starving, raging beast. Then when my period comes down it’s so heavy it looks like it did when I once miscarried. Right now my skin is crawling and it hey and my back is sweaty. My husband is sleeping in jogging pants bc I put the air on 65. I’m sweating and kicking the covers off all night.I’m so glad I found this blog.


Cathi September 28, 2015 at 7:34 am

I’m 42 and this past weekend I was due for my period but never got it. My husband and I are are always careful. I’m also having sore breasts and a couple other symptoms. I’m panicking of the thought being pregnant at my age. I was researching because I was thinking maybe I missed my period because of a health issue and that’s when I stumbled on this blog and saw other stuff online that say you can have pregnancy like symptoms while starting pre menopause. I haven’t taken a pregnancy test yet to rule it out though and I’m very nervous of course. I due have two children already and remember that the symptoms I have now, I had them with my daughter .


Magnolia September 28, 2015 at 8:21 am


I would definitely take a pregnancy test. I was 42 when I conceived my 3rd child…..who just turned 16 :) Perimenopause can cause all kinds of weird symptoms, and it could be that you’re just experiencing shifting hormones which are causing the symptoms. But, rule out pregnancy now. It will put your mind at ease.

And going forward, please understand that perimenopause has a way of making you think you’re pregnant every month. I went through it for YEARS. But, alas, after I gave birth to my 3rd and last child, I got pregnant no more. And to put your mind at ease, having a baby in my 40s was one of the greatest blessings of my life.

I was late having kids anyway……34 and 36. And I always wanted another one. So, I was delighted to be pregnant. If you are, I assure you, it’s grand.



Linda September 28, 2015 at 7:53 pm

I second that! I was pregnant at 35 and 42 what a blessing!!!


Elaine Corbett September 28, 2015 at 3:56 pm

Ii hate my husband at the moment and want to leave him …….


Meg September 28, 2015 at 9:45 pm

There is just no other way to say it: I am a hateful bitch, and I can’t stand it. I am married to the most patient, loving, supportive man, and he irritates the living crap out of me. I’m 44 and was told by my doctor at 41 that I was in perimenopause…. These mood swings, where one day I hate EVERYTHING, and the next day I’m fine, are awful. My poor kids and husband. I want to go live in a cave until I am once again fit for human interactions. I hate my job, but I don’t know if I actually hate IT or just hate EVERYTHING.
Time to see a doctor. Glad to know there might be an explanation besides clinical bitchery.


lori September 29, 2015 at 2:43 pm

I’m so glad to how found this site. I’m only 41 but having horrible symptoms. I get very dizzy,heart palpitations, shortness of breath,fatigue and hot flashes or feeling hot in the face. I get nervous and my anxiety kicks in. Also I can’t sleep at night because of these symptoms. I have an appt with the dr tomorrow because I feel like I’m too young for menopause. I’m miserable. Just hope its nothing major.


lori September 29, 2015 at 2:45 pm

I’m so glad to how found this site. I’m only 41 but having horrible symptoms. I get very dizzy,heart palpitations, shortness of breath,fatigue and hot flashes or feeling hot in the face. I get nervous and my anxiety kicks in. Also I can’t sleep at night because of this.I have an appt with the dr tomorrow because I feel like I’m too young for menopause. I’m miserable. Just hope its nothing major.


Sheila September 30, 2015 at 2:31 am

Thank God for this website!! I had thought for the past couple of years that what was going on with me could be perimenapase from hell!! After reading all your comments and symptoms, this has got to be it!! I’ve got it all. Dizzy spells, imbalance,crazy anxiety. Nausea, achy joints and muscles,weird type of migraines.sensation feeling on top back side of heat, irregular heartbeat, fatigue, low vitamin D, low ferratin levels, tingling feet, shakey vision, fullness in ears, sinus pressure, burning feeling around upper chest. I started using Syrunga wild yam emolient cream I. It just might be helping some, maybe? It has the natural building blocks for regulating your hormones I’ve had all this going on for the past almost 3 years!! I hate it!! But the anxiety and coping with it has gotten better. In the beginning, alot of trips to the ER not knowing what to do. The dizzy spells can be so scary!!!


gls September 30, 2015 at 11:22 am

can anyone help me and at least point me in the right direction? my wife is 50 yo, and she is having the following symptoms: Cant sleep at all and takes 4-5 ambien a day. Is irrational. has complete mood swings. cries constantly. is mean. is depressed. has major anxiety. sex, forget about that-nothing in 1 year, etc…
we have seen the experts. she has gone on every hormone known to medicine and i am at my wits end for her. she is in the vicious cycle: cant sleep and then cant function.
i know there isnt one Rx that solves this issue, but can anyone help me help her?


Mar October 3, 2015 at 4:10 pm

Was to stumble across this page. I’ve read several posts and I see myself in most of them. I personally feel I’ve been in period for 3 to 4 years and I’m 46. I too have had the most difficult time with anxiety. Missed 2 months of work cos I couldn’t leave our apartment. It’s a vicious circle as the symptoms of anxiety cause more anxiety. I’ve been to multiple blood tests all “normal” so docs don’t feel it’s legit peri. I finally have a doctor that believes symptoms are more telling than bloodless with regards to period. I’ve had pretty much every symptom at one time or another. Doc sent me to a psych once, I’ve had them say ” oh you’re too young”. I go eight months at a time without a period. The worse obgyn I went to was female. It’s just a hard frustrating time for women. I too am not a fan of the heart fluttering or the feeling it’s beating hard, which usually only last out 5 to 10 minutes. If you come across some regiment that relieves your symptoms that’s great. I’ve just come to the realization that it’ll all pass, no one has ever died from anxiety and definitely not from menopause so hang in there ladies.


Mar October 3, 2015 at 4:14 pm

Ugh sorry for typos I’m on an android tablet and darn autocorrect. Used to a laptop. I don’t know how the youngins do it:-) Hope you got the idea.


Beverly Williams October 3, 2015 at 6:24 pm

I just wanted to say thank you! I thought I was losing my mind. I didn’t know what to do. I knew I was going through perimenopause. I am age 48. But I didn’t know all the symptoms that were involved. So I started to think something horribly wrong must be happening to my body. Or at the very least I was going crazy. You helped me so much and knowing now all thatiI do. I have set up a appointment to get started on what ever my body needs. Also knowing there is someone who can help means so much. So Thank you Thank you Thank you!

Beverly Williams


Magnolia May 17, 2015 at 1:25 pm


I understand what you’re trying to say when you compare your wife’s mood swings to manic swings. However, can I please suggest that you back away from clinical mental diagnostic tools to describe women in perimenopause?

We are not mentally ill. Perimenopause is not a mental condition. Yes, it does cause mood swings and affect changes in our behavior. But, we are NOT mentally ill or suffering from psychosis in any form.

I say that because women are CONSTANTLY being treated as if they are mentally ill when all they are suffering from is the effects of hormone imbalance. Their body systems are out of balance. Not their mind. And for you to appeal to us to “take it easy on our husbands” tells me that you think we have some capacity to control it or something.

We can’t. I’m sorry to tell you that. But, we simply can’t. Maybe YOU should take it easy on your wife and not compare her to clinically diagnosed mental patients?

I do understand you want to help. And I respect that you are here seeking information so you CAN help her. But, please sir, lose the language of the DSM if you really want to help your wife.



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